stuck in the middle

[nemisis6960]

i have a friend who ive known since i was say about 6, am now 20 and i have a female friend who ive known for 4 an a half years. These two people have been together for 2 years and split at christmas. Me and this female friend have been in a relationship with each other in the past and are now becoming closer once again, but late last night my friend told me that this female friend had been saying very nasty things behind my back which she denies but i wouldnt put it past her. who should i believe

[ivy]

i have a friend who ive known since i was say about 6, am now 20 and i have a female friend who ive known for 4 an a half years. These two people have been together for 2 years and split at christmas. Me and this female friend have been in a relationship with each other in the past and are now becoming closer once again, but late last night my friend told me that this female friend had been saying very nasty things behind my back which she denies but i wouldnt put it past her. who should i believe
If you wouldn't put it past her believe your friend.

[CalistaClap]

Like the other poster said, if you wouldn't put it past her then go with the friend's word.

Although, could it be that your friend is jealous that you are becoming involved with his ex girlfriend?

I would talk to the friend and make sure he is comfortable with you dating his ex. 2 years is a long time together. I personally wouldn't be comfortable if my friend started dating my ex of a few years. It wouldn't bother me so much about him, but more that my friend would do that.

Just remember that good friends are a whole lot harder to come by then girlfriends.

Good luck! :)

[Girl]

Since you don't trust either of them, instead of making an attempt at figuring out who is worth believing, maybe you should evaluate your relationship with both of them.

[Howard]

It could be a bit of jealousy on the friend's part.

[eightball61]

How close are you with this guy friend? I know you have known him since the 6th grade but are you both really close? Have you talked to him about you and her getting closer?

This does sound like the classic case of a jealous friend but then again you wil never know the truth. The best thing you can do is to follow your heart on this one. If you can't trust both then you need to stay clear from them because the tention will not get any better.

[Diablo]

The worst thing you can do is confront one of them while you're unsure of what's going on. Just bide your time for now. If she is saying vicious things about you behind your back, you'll hear about it from other people.

[coolguy05]

gossip occurs all the time, unfortunatly most of it is negative. Though I'm not fully aware of your situation, if she and you are getting closer, I would bet money man, that shes not saying bad stuff. Why would she say bad stuff of a guy whos going to potentially be her boyfriend? Thats non sensical. It seems to obvious actually that its your friend whos jealous, which actually though seems understandable. I know I would be, especially if it was my ex and friend. I wouldn't worry about it, and if you and this girl are having a good relationship, its not worth the worry, For love of god enjoy yourself! Unless rumours pop up, or anything escalates, my suggestion is to suck down the ego ballon a bit and just enjoy yourself with this lady friend, and if your friend in face still terats you well, then do the same. All I can suggest. Man.

Peace.

[nemisis6960]

i said in my origianal post that i had been in a relationship with this female friend once before, this relationship lasted for 2 1/2 years and ended on good terms but when it ended my friend since i was 6 gave it a week and then moved in on her which was very uncomfortable for me because this ment i would see them together most days. (incase anyone asked why it ended, this was because it just simply wasnt the right time for us and i was working away from home often)

cheers for the advice

[eightball61]

You still have to make sure that both of the friends are comfortable with this. If you proceed then proceed with caution.

[nemisis6960]

thank you everyone for the good advice, i realise that trust is one of the most important aspects for a good relationship, so i am going to trust her with every word she tells me.

Cheers once again.

[ivy]

i said in my origianal post that i had been in a relationship with this female friend once before, this relationship lasted for 2 1/2 years and ended on good terms but when it ended my friend since i was 6 gave it a week and then moved in on her which was very uncomfortable for me because this ment i would see them together most days. (incase anyone asked why it ended, this was because it just simply wasnt the right time for us and i was working away from home often)

cheers for the advice

Ahhh that paints a much different picture. ;) You probably already knew who to trust, you just needed a sounding board.