ShyGuy
07-04-2004, 11:06 PM
A buddy from work arranged for me to meet his sister in law when me, his wife and the in-law went out for some beers, food and music trivia night, on a Wednesday.
I don't know how to dance and therefore I usually don't do it...i reluctantly go on the floor. She got me out there. No resistance whatsoever.
The next day at work, I was given a phone # and was told I was to call her. So, I call her. We talk. We talk for several hours the course of the next few days. That Sunday, I went to visit her, showing up with a pink rose. We went out, rented a movie and came back to her place and watched the movie and had a bite to eat.
We talked on the phone for a many more hours that week. The next Sunday, I took her to East Side Mario's and then we went and saw Shrek 2. Through out the whole movie I was shyly trying to hold her hand but I could never b ring myself to doing it.
We spend a bunch more time on the phone and make plans to spend that Thursday together. This was July 1st. Canada Day. We spent the day together with one of her friends. Her friend was a bit of a non-issue as far as that is concerned. She was fun to have around and deffinately helped ease any tensions/shyness.
Anyway, we went to a Canada Day celebration the 3 of us. While we were walking through the field, walking closely she reached over and gripped my hand. I gripped back as we just walked.
Later that night, I tried to get her to go out and watch the fireworks; but she didn't want to. But as soon as we heard the booms we rushed outside to barely see some of them over the tree tops in the backyard. We started to almost wish we had gone but we just stood there and watched. Her in front of me, arms around her at the waist.
After the fireworks were done she turned around. We spoke a little bit before we both just leaned in and started to kiss. We went inside the house, watched a little tv. It was too late for me to drive home afterward (I live about an hour away) so we decided I ought to spend the night. I have made mistakes in my past and vowed I was not going to have meaningless again, so I was going to sleep on the couch. She says "what are you doing? we aren't 2 years old" so i went in and we lay on the bed, we both had clothes on in bed. We kissed a little more and went to sleep. I got up early since I had to make the voyage to work.
My whole thing is this, I am having feelings for her that I have never felt for anyone. Family members are asking me "how is the girlfriend" etc...but I don't even know if we are really a couple.
We haven't spoken about that, things have just sort of progressed. In situations like this, are there just some things that don't need to be said? Further, how would be the best way to approach her if I do need some sort of comfirmation? I will be honest, I am 27. I have never been in a SERIOUS relationship. I don't want to blow this. I know it has been a short period of time, but I am really starting to have strong feelings for her. Not lusting at all...I am seriously starting to wonder if there is a seed of love there. Is it too soon for that? Would she be flattered, would she be spooked, what if it is not mutual yet...
I don't know how to dance and therefore I usually don't do it...i reluctantly go on the floor. She got me out there. No resistance whatsoever.
The next day at work, I was given a phone # and was told I was to call her. So, I call her. We talk. We talk for several hours the course of the next few days. That Sunday, I went to visit her, showing up with a pink rose. We went out, rented a movie and came back to her place and watched the movie and had a bite to eat.
We talked on the phone for a many more hours that week. The next Sunday, I took her to East Side Mario's and then we went and saw Shrek 2. Through out the whole movie I was shyly trying to hold her hand but I could never b ring myself to doing it.
We spend a bunch more time on the phone and make plans to spend that Thursday together. This was July 1st. Canada Day. We spent the day together with one of her friends. Her friend was a bit of a non-issue as far as that is concerned. She was fun to have around and deffinately helped ease any tensions/shyness.
Anyway, we went to a Canada Day celebration the 3 of us. While we were walking through the field, walking closely she reached over and gripped my hand. I gripped back as we just walked.
Later that night, I tried to get her to go out and watch the fireworks; but she didn't want to. But as soon as we heard the booms we rushed outside to barely see some of them over the tree tops in the backyard. We started to almost wish we had gone but we just stood there and watched. Her in front of me, arms around her at the waist.
After the fireworks were done she turned around. We spoke a little bit before we both just leaned in and started to kiss. We went inside the house, watched a little tv. It was too late for me to drive home afterward (I live about an hour away) so we decided I ought to spend the night. I have made mistakes in my past and vowed I was not going to have meaningless again, so I was going to sleep on the couch. She says "what are you doing? we aren't 2 years old" so i went in and we lay on the bed, we both had clothes on in bed. We kissed a little more and went to sleep. I got up early since I had to make the voyage to work.
My whole thing is this, I am having feelings for her that I have never felt for anyone. Family members are asking me "how is the girlfriend" etc...but I don't even know if we are really a couple.
We haven't spoken about that, things have just sort of progressed. In situations like this, are there just some things that don't need to be said? Further, how would be the best way to approach her if I do need some sort of comfirmation? I will be honest, I am 27. I have never been in a SERIOUS relationship. I don't want to blow this. I know it has been a short period of time, but I am really starting to have strong feelings for her. Not lusting at all...I am seriously starting to wonder if there is a seed of love there. Is it too soon for that? Would she be flattered, would she be spooked, what if it is not mutual yet...