Please, I really need some advice

[Laine]

hi everyone

I am hoping that some of you can help me. I have been with my husband for 16yrs and am ashamed to say that I have not been able to show him how much I love and care about him.

That is until two months ago, when I discovered he had been seeing another woman. It was such a shock that I am now able to tell him how much I love him, but he doesn't believe me. He is not seeing her any more, but keeps changing his mind whether he wants us to try again, or to split up.

He has left a couple of times but come back and last night he packed all of his stuff but then stayed and we agreed we would live together in the house as friends, for the sake of the children. We get on very well as friends and can have a laugh, it was the personal side of things that was so wrong.

One minute he wants me to be near him and the next he doesn't, he slept on the sofa last night.

I want to be able to make up for all the heartache I put him through, how can I show him???

If anyone has any advice whatsoever I would be very grateful, thank you.

[Skye]

Hi,

I'm sorry for your pain.

I wish you and your family well.

And I wish you strength.

GET RID OF YOUR HUSBAND, FAST.

An affair does not negate,

children,

married love,

memories,

sacrifice,

etc. You get my point. I know you are bonded by the convenant of marriage. I know you love him. I know you feel hurt.

But, are you willing to live with his betrayal?

Are you willing to teach your kids lessons that married love looks like this? ie, husband sleeps on the couch?

Your kids already know about your problems. Don't magnify their hurt and confusion by allowing your broken marriage to change their perception of love.

There is either the right thing to do or the wrong thing.

Do the right thing. For yourself, your kids, your dignity.