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ivy
08-17-2005, 09:52 PM
Somewhere on these boards I talked about how my daughter was in a bad relationship at one time but now she has a guy that treats her really good. Well I do not know why I have found myself having a problem with the relationship.

I would really like some of your input. My daughter is 17 and her b/f is going to be 21. For some reason I had no problem when she said he was 20 because I thought he just turned 20 but in fact he will be 21 soon.

I think the reason I may have a problem with it is he is old enough to buy alcohol now. I don't know why that should bother me. He seems like he has a good head on his shoulder. So what do you all think of a 17 yo dating a 21 yo? I think I am over reacting. At least in my mind I am. I have not said a word against their relationship. This guy is a good guy. He is going to school he has plans on what he wants to do with his life. He is very out going and it sounds like he has a very loving family. Anyway tell me what you think.
eightball61
08-18-2005, 01:02 AM
This guy is a good guy. He is going to school he has plans on what he wants to do with his life. He is very out going and it sounds like he has a very loving family. Anyway tell me what you think.

I think you need to see the positives about this guy like you stated in this quote. She is finally with a guy that she cares for deeply & a guy that feels the same way about her. Be happy that she is no longer with the other loser. You need to trust her and him on thier doings. You see a lot of good in this guy and this is what you need to keep your mind on.

You may or may not know but I am 23 and my GF is 17. She is soon to be 18 in a few weeks. It was hard for her mom to accept a lot of things but I respected her moms thoughts and I kept to her wishes. Her mom has accepted me because she has sees the good I have going for myself.

The best thing you can do is be the loving and supportive mother that you are. If this guy ever crosses the line in a way you don't like then that will be the reason not to trust him. For now though he seems like a good guy so you should continue seeing his goodness rather than the potential negatives.
ivy
08-18-2005, 01:25 AM
I think you need to see the positives about this guy like you stated in this quote. She is finally with a guy that she cares for deeply & a guy that feels the same way about her. Be happy that she is no longer with the other loser. You need to trust her and him on thier doings. You see a lot of good in this guy and this is what you need to keep your mind on.

You may or may not know but I am 23 and my GF is 17. She is soon to be 18 in a few weeks. It was hard for her mom to accept a lot of things but I respected her moms thoughts and I kept to her wishes. Her mom has accepted me because she has sees the good I have going for myself.

The best thing you can do is be the loving and supportive mother that you are. If this guy ever crosses the line in a way you don't like then that will be the reason not to trust him. For now though he seems like a good guy so you should continue seeing his goodness rather than the potential negatives.

Thanks ;) I just needed to read that I think. Maybe a little fear that my girl is growing up. The guy is very respectful. He is the kind of guy who will bring her home on time. He always gives me a big hug when he comes over the house. I think I just need to let my girl grow up. Maybe seperation anxiety? This is her last year in Highschool and then off to college.
eightball61
08-18-2005, 01:37 AM
Just be proud you brought her up the best way you could. All decisions she makes after this point is hers but still be there as the mother like you have always been ;)
ivy
08-18-2005, 01:42 AM
Just be proud you brought her up the best way you could. All decisions she makes after this point is hers but still be there as the mother like you have always been ;)

Thanks I am very proud of her. She is very mature.
Diablo
08-19-2005, 12:54 AM
Eightball you craddle robber! At any rate Ivy, since you see a lot of positives in this guy, it should be okay. 20 and 17 are compatable ages and probably you do have a little seperation anxiety going here. That's entirely normal, but he sounds like a good guy.
eightball61
08-19-2005, 04:50 PM
Eightball you craddle robber!



She can start buying & cigarettes in 2 weeks...... :cool:
ivy
08-19-2005, 08:29 PM
Eightball you craddle robber! At any rate Ivy, since you see a lot of positives in this guy, it should be okay. 20 and 17 are compatable ages and probably you do have a little seperation anxiety going here. That's entirely normal, but he sounds like a good guy.


Thanks Diablo ;) He will actually be 21 but I know it isn't that bad. It might even be better then someone her own age. Maybe he will be a little more settled.