CrazyOphelia42
09-05-2005, 06:33 AM
So, I'm dating this man who's wonderful in every way, except for his apparent lack of motivation. We moved from Montana to Portland, OR, back in December or 2004. My problem? He JUST got a job about 2 weeks ago, working at Blockbuster. Yes, that's right, it took him EIGHT MONTHS to get a job. I have a really great job that paid our bills while we were together, but I just got tired of taking care of a freeloader (and his child from another marriage), so I moved out back in May.
I'm in a state of indecision now, however, since he is, finally, now employed. To be fair, I don't think his lack of motivation (or whatever), is necessarily completely his fault. His mother is a wealthy woman, so she will give him money whenever he really needs it, so he's never really had to learn financial responsibility. What bothers me is his contentment to continue 'borrowing' from her. It really grates on me, since I firmly believe in working for a living.
So, now, he's beginning to realize that working at Blockbuster just isn't going to pay the bills for himself and his daughter, but instead of looking for a new job, he's about to call mummy again. My dilemma is that I told him that we'd get engaged (like we were planning to do when we first moved out here) once he found steady employment, and I'd move back in. I've been dragging my feet about it, because I'm not all that jazzed with the situation I'd be moving into, as it is currently, anyway. He's got a 7 yr old girl, who's a doll, but once school starts, I'd be spending more time with her than he would, since he usually works nights.
I guess I'm just looking for some opinions on how you all would proceed in this situation. Thanks!
I'm in a state of indecision now, however, since he is, finally, now employed. To be fair, I don't think his lack of motivation (or whatever), is necessarily completely his fault. His mother is a wealthy woman, so she will give him money whenever he really needs it, so he's never really had to learn financial responsibility. What bothers me is his contentment to continue 'borrowing' from her. It really grates on me, since I firmly believe in working for a living.
So, now, he's beginning to realize that working at Blockbuster just isn't going to pay the bills for himself and his daughter, but instead of looking for a new job, he's about to call mummy again. My dilemma is that I told him that we'd get engaged (like we were planning to do when we first moved out here) once he found steady employment, and I'd move back in. I've been dragging my feet about it, because I'm not all that jazzed with the situation I'd be moving into, as it is currently, anyway. He's got a 7 yr old girl, who's a doll, but once school starts, I'd be spending more time with her than he would, since he usually works nights.
I guess I'm just looking for some opinions on how you all would proceed in this situation. Thanks!