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Diablo
09-23-2005, 06:43 AM
As some of you know, I haven't dated since my last gf died back in 2001. A friend of mine talked me into going to the Catholic Church a while back and I go fairly regularly even though I'm more agnostic than anything else. She told the priest that I don't date because I'm trying to lead a chaste life. Not true, however, people believing that about you can get you respect in a Catholic church. If people knew the real reason, they would think they have to convince me to date again and I don't want to deal with that. No one has broached the subject with me there, so I'm saying nothing about it one way or the other. I think it's the wise thing to do, but I have a feeling it's going to bite me on the butt sooner or later. However, people always believe things about you that aren't true. Not many people deserve their reputations anyway, so perhaps the thing to do is to just not bring it up, but another concern is that my friend could say other things about me that aren't true trying to score me some points with the congregation. If it comes out that any of it isn't true, it'll discredit me in the eyes of the people there even though I never said those things. Any thoughts?

eightball61
09-23-2005, 10:47 AM
Your personal life only should be discussed by you and not her.

CalistaClap
09-23-2005, 11:25 AM
Hmm...there's something about lying in church that makes me uncomfortable.

I agree, it most likely will come back at you later when the day comes that you do decide to date again.

How coming clean to the priest be an option, but also telling him that you just don't want to date?

SALly
09-23-2005, 12:49 PM
I don't think you need to worry about it. I doubt people really believe everything they hear from others and I doubt that is why they are being nice and welcoming you.

kw1202
09-23-2005, 02:01 PM
She told the priest that I don't date because I'm trying to lead a chaste life.

^^ This is the difference

Did you ever agree or dispute this? If someone asks you then you can tell your side. This is almost like a rumor it gets twisted as each person tells it

Diablo
09-23-2005, 05:57 PM
It doesn't come up, so I don't say anything about it.