Need some advice about a friend!!

[DJREMIX]

well, heres my situation!! well, ive been talking to this girl from work 4 the past 5 to 6 months, but the thing is that she has a boyfriend. i mean i really like her alot and she likes me alot also. So, i mean the question that i have is why is she with her boyfriend 4 the following reasons. 1.) its so weird but she gets jealous everytime that im talking to one of my co-workers who are females. its so funny cause we have so much fun with each other and we touch each other and we both like it. there were times where i would look into her eyes and man i would really want to kiss her but i couldnt cause she has a man. One day, we were talking and she leaned over and kissed me on the lips. i was shocked but i liked it. we probably kissed like 5 times, why do u think she kissed even though she has a man? i mean i really want 2 be with her, but i dont know what to do. Do u think shes confused? i know she has feelings 4 me? why does she get jealous when i talk to other girls when me and her arent even going out with each other? well, i really need some advice on this since ive never been in this type of situation.

[kw1202]

she has a boyfriend


my question is if you WERE her boyfriend how would you feel if she was kissing some other guy?

It's obvious she wants her cake and ice cream plus syrup.

My opinion is find out what's up with them first because if she's doing this to him what makes you think she won't do it to you? Maintain the friendship but to me you and her are both disrepectful to the existing relationship. Don't do to him what you wouldn't want another guy to do to you.

Sorry if it sounds harsh but I have a problem with cheating and that's what she is doing and your going along with it. Again this is only my opinion

[chevmech]

Agreed! How do you know she will not do this kind of thing to YOU once you are together? Just how she is handling this situation suggests that she is not a very trustworthy person. I know it's easy to get hypnotized , but remember, it's best not to get involved with someone who is involved. If you still find that you are interested, insist that she end her current relationship before you go any further! Be careful how you handle this- you may end up in over your head!

[eightball61]

What makes you think she may not do the same thing with another guy if you both were dating?

If your willing then take the chance but don't come back crying that we never warned you....

[yourstruly]

WAKE UP!!!

This girl is trouble.

Trust me, she'd do the same thing to you (flirt and kiss with other guys), if it was you and she together, instead of she and her boyfriend.

[AllReiGNSupreme]

yo im having kinda the same problem but we are not deep into it like u but i met this girl a cpl of yrs ago at my aunts market. we talked when we seen each other she suspected i was into her back when she started cause i came in drunk on xmas eve and grabbed her hand and kissed it lol in front of customers but this past cpl of weeks have been different i told her i had something to say to her and she was like what what ? what is it ? like she knew what i was gonna say but the problem is she has a man. i call her almost every day she has told me that her boyfriend has seen me before which is odd because ive never met or have seen her point him out to me. i feel that she has something 4 me cause we have chemistry .

[eightball61]

yo im having kinda the same problem but we are not deep into it like u but i met this girl a cpl of yrs ago at my aunts market. we talked when we seen each other she suspected i was into her back when she started cause i came in drunk on xmas eve and grabbed her hand and kissed it lol in front of customers but this past cpl of weeks have been different i told her i had something to say to her and she was like what what ? what is it ? like she knew what i was gonna say but the problem is she has a man. i call her almost every day she has told me that her boyfriend has seen me before which is odd because ive never met or have seen her point him out to me. i feel that she has something 4 me cause we have chemistry .

Chemistry??? She's with another guy..... You met her a couple years ago at your aunt's market. You had 2 years to turn this so-called chemisty into reality. The end results are that she went to another guy because she was probably tired of waiting for you to make a move. I doubt she feels the same chemisty that you currently feel.

~8Ball

[AllReiGNSupreme]

well its obvious i like her i always talk to her and smile and play around she had my number already from someone and she input her cell phone number in my cell she told me that she wanted to change my name so incase her boyfriend checks her phone
so i gave her a phoney one she just turned 18 i just turned 20 the funny thing is that a cpl of months ago my cousin was trying to holla at her and she told me she would never go out with him just 4 the fact he flirts with all the girls that work there and she was still with her boyfriend lol crazy huh ? give me some advice please HITCH ? lol

[AllReiGNSupreme]

yo eightball when i kissed her hand she was still with the same guy i beleive he is in his mid 20s dang rapist lol

[yourstruly]

AllReignSupreme. Not meant to offend you, but you are "hijacking" this thread (which means you are posting your own problem on someone else's thread without even aiding in helping the original poster of this thread). Please respect others by starting a new thread of your own.

[eightball61]

she input her cell phone number in my cell she told me that she wanted to change my name so incase her boyfriend checks her phone



Dude, it's clearly shown that she isn't leaving this guy anytime soon. The best advise that I have for you is to find someone that is single. You have no chance in having a boyfriend & girlfriend relationship. Take the signs before you end up heartbroken.

~8Ball

[Diablo]

To DJREMIX, yes, she has a boyfriend, but practically all of them do and she's just about eating out of your hand. Screw the moralistic bullshit and steal the woman. She's a girlfriend, not a wife. She might not stay with you, but that's true of any woman.

[sherrylynn75]

To DJREMIX, yes, she has a boyfriend, but practically all of them do and she's just about eating out of your hand. Screw the moralistic bullshit and steal the woman. She's a girlfriend, not a wife. She might not stay with you, but that's true of any woman.


I agree. Go for it!! She's obviously not gonna stay with this guy forever especially considering she's already putting herself in positions to be taken away. Besides you are all still young if you don't seize the opportunity now you might not get it again or someone else will. This is no marriage with kids you're breaking up. Like Diablo said she's a girlfriend not a wife.