Advice Needed ASAP!

[crobar85]

What's up people, I am 18 years old. I have been going out with my girlfriend for a few weeks. She has only called me on the phone a couple of times because i don't talk a lot when we're on the phone. We will exchange a few words then i will go quite. She will say "talk boy". I am the kind of guy who is not too good with talking to girls. I am afraid that i might loose her because of my lack of ability to talk and hold a good conversation on the phone to keep her interested in me. If there are any ladies out there please let me know what women like to talk about on the phone. Any guys or true playaz out there please let me know what women like to hear and what i should say to start a good conversation that would interest the girl. Thank You!

[rani2]

Ok i have a few things to say... Convo shouldnt really be bout wat to talk bout, if the convo isn't really working then the relationship wont really flow and lead on to other things.... In my exp convos flow wen u dont need to think bout wat to say and things just pop up so u talk bout them. I mean always find ways to complement a gurl and just talk bout them and find out all sorts of things bout them and eventually u'll be finding things in common wif her therefore giving u sumthing to talk bout :p and another thing i found out the hard way is to "neva talk bout random things" coz it just makes the gurl think wat the hell is this guy on? try talking bout things that are on the topic of convo and relates to wat shes talking bout yeah?
Cool hope this helps... if u got ne questions reply back ill be happy to help ;)

[Tweetyandy]

How well do you two talk in person? I mean if the conversation spark isn't there then it just isn't. I don't quite agree with the random topics comment made by the other poster. My husband and I used to have random topic phone calls ant they can be very interesting and memorable for example we had a conversation about cows on day out of nowhere, and we still joke about it almost 4 years later. What do you two have in common? That's a good start. Or ask her about her favorite song ,or movie, or something and then you share yours and see if anything takes off.

[Rich]

A happy, long lasting and rewarding relationship isn't forced. It's constantly tweaked here and there, but it's never forced.

On the other hand, you say that you're 18, so I'm thinking that you just want to date and possibly get lucky.

Any relationship is getting to know the other person. You get to know them by asking questions. Lots of questions. Conversation then flows as follow ups to the questions.

Likes? Dislikes? Goals in life? Turnoffs? How their job is or isn't. Setting up the next date and where to go. Thoughts on marriage? Kids?

There is also a book out there with the title, "What If". At least I think that's the name of it. It's a book of all questions that make you think. All hypothetical questions that offer great ground work for conversation and getting to know someone.

As for quietness and shyness. Quietness is ok but shyness goes away with confidence. You get confidence by doing. The more you do, the more confident you get. A journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.

Rich