Just too nice!!!

[queen jezebell]

Hi im new to this process but i have a problem that i can handle but can't at the same time I have a new boyfriend after one year of off and on again issues with ex-fiancee who broke off our engagement and has maintained that he loves me and continues to talk with my mother from time to time but now is just "letting" me have my fun with my current beau and i still talk to him and keep in touch and he recently informed me that he wants to call our engagement back on in December when he gets back from his job assisgnment i don't say anything either way but i really am falling for new beau and really don't old beau back i've explained it once but he always finds a way to weasel out the convo and i know what i have to do i just need some ideas on getting him out i've changed my number and my brother gave him my new im just too nice to hurt him horribly what or how should i do it?

[eightball61]

i really am falling for new beau and really don't old beau back i've explained it once but he always finds a way to weasel out the convo ?


May I ask, what is a beau?

Knowing this may alter my suggestion so if you can clear this up then that would be greatly appreciated:)

Thank You

[dezdweller]

Hi im new to this process but i have a problem that i can handle but can't at the same time I have a new boyfriend after one year of off and on again issues with ex-fiancee who broke off our engagement and has maintained that he loves me and continues to talk with my mother from time to time but now is just "letting" me have my fun with my current beau and i still talk to him and keep in touch and he recently informed me that he wants to call our engagement back on in December when he gets back from his job assisgnment i don't say anything either way but i really am falling for new beau and really don't old beau back i've explained it once but he always finds a way to weasel out the convo and i know what i have to do i just need some ideas on getting him out i've changed my number and my brother gave him my new im just too nice to hurt him horribly what or how should i do it?


So don't make it a conversation - make it a statement. You don't have to be rude, but let's be real here. He broke it off, he really isn't "letting" you do a damn thing. Just say no, I'm not going to marry you, sorry...

[queen jezebell]

beau is my word for bf

[SALly]

Sounds like you need to tell your mother that you are moving on also so she can stop talking to him.

[eightball61]

i really am falling for new beau and really don't old beau back

If you’re falling for someone else then go for that someone else. This guy has had his chance but broke it a while back. He can't expect to get right back into things & you need to tell him that. You seem like a softy and in situations like this you need to tell him bluntly with out sugarcoating the topic.

~8Ball

[queen jezebell]

well thats great advice because my mother hates my new bf only b/c she loves my ex and he is a lot older than me we had a two year engagement because of my age he felt we should have and i respected that but its more that he wasn't ready to commit because he never wanted to talk about the wedding nor a date and to top it all off he purposely takes traveling assignment for three months at a time b/c he's obsessed with making money he called it off but the young fool that i am was sleeping with him whenever he wanted and never asking for more even though he knew thats what i wanted and he took advantage of the fact that he was my first and i was 18 so he feels like i'm his property but the new guy im seeing is 19 and we both are looking for something cool that could eventually lead to something else and i really love that but i can't hurt peoples feelings i just feel like karma will get me or something i mean i want us to be civil b/c the likeliness of being friends with an ex is a horrible relationship ruiner if the other person has a hidden agenda and i am not sacrificing my new relationship for the old onebut i think that my mom is telling him things that i tell her because everytime i say we need to talk he becomes unreachable and she gets awfully mousy i am not just blowing stem i want advice and i will take it i just need the best way to do it completely and that includes getting him to take me seriously he doesnt take me seriously because he is
older than me

[eightball61]

i am not sacrificing my new relationship


^^ Now that you have made your decision you now need to make the proper arrangements for nothing to come in-between you and the new relationship.