We're Married...Not to each other

[falisatee]

So, I'm on my second marriage one child from both marriages. I'm going through a divorce finally after 7 months of being in love with another man who is also married. We love each other more than anything. We are unhappy with our current spouses, but are in heaven with each other. We understand each other, we get along, its just perfect. So, he wants to leave his wife and be with me, but he's nervous about my 2 kids. He says it bothers him they are not his and that he would have to share them with someone else, hes concerned about financial issues, etc. He loves my kids and they love him. The reason I am getting a little impatient is he is moving to England in May. I don't want to be strung along or left behind. I love him so much. Any answers?

[CTAnd14]

When you are a teenage, it is so easy to fall in love. There is no reason for there to be any stress or troublesome emotions, so love comes naturally and is untested.

When you enter an adult relationship, even true love can become troublesome with the addition of financial problems, busy schedules and children. But, a truely worthwhile relationship envolves not only unimaginable love, but also the ability to sacrifice, and work through problems as a couple. If the relationship you are in is going to be worth going to England for (or working on a long distance relationship for), he should be willing to financially share any of your responsibilities and be willing to embrass your children as a part of who you are.

I wouldn't expect him to be able to immediately fall into the role of provider and father to your children, but if you cannot honestly and realistically see him doing that in the future....you may want to enjoy the time he is still in the states and then move on.

[eightball61]

If you are unhappy then "yes leave your husband but don't do it for this guy. He is moving and making no obligation to leave his current wife nor I think he will. He is just making excuses in my mind not to leave. This situation is up to you on how to take it but my suggestion is stop all ual activities or forms of expression until all minds are made up on where to take it from there.

[smackie9]

You were just caught up in the moment of passion. When the dust clears, you are faced with incompatabilty. It happens. You should figure out if you are truely unhappy with your husband or were you feeling bored or neglected. Having an affair is just an escape, running away from your problems. All you really get is new problems. Don't waste your time with this guy.