threesome?

[tonyro2004]

I need some advice. I have had this fantasy of setting my wife up for a surprise threesome with another man and myself where we totally indulge her. I'm afraid to take the step from fantasy to reality. Women out there...would this be something that would be a turn on, or be acceptable - or would this totally ruin your image of your husband?

[Rich]

Try watching a o with your wife that has a 2 guy, 1 girl threesome going on and guage her interest in it. Maybe jokingly ask her if she liked that and take your cue from there.

Rich

[l4linda]

I disagree with Rich. First I don't think this is something you should even consider surprising your wife with. Most women would be very upset with that kind of surprise, even women who might under other circumstances consider a threesome. If you are seriously considering making this fantasy a reality, you should first consider the possible emotional consequences to both you and your wife. If you don't know what I'm talking about, you're definitely not ready for a threesome. If after considering the consequences you still wish to proceed, the next step would be to raise the subject with her and see how she feels about it. A good way to open dialog might be to enjoy a movie depicting threesomes if she enjoys x-rated movies. It would be a natural launching point for conversation. You will know by her reaction whether to proceed or not. If she's open to the idea it will probably take more than one conversation before she would feel comfortable going forward. If she's offended, upset, hurt, or any other negative reaction, I would strongly advise you to keep threesomes in the realm of fantasy. Fantasies are great, acting them out can be very dangerous, and people don't always realize the dangers in advance.

[smalls]

I am not married but engaged. My last bf and I talked and talked about this and then I finally brought a girl home and we did it. He was the jealous one becuase then I had interest in women from then on. I think that everyone that I have talked to that this has ruined their relationship. It never ends in a good way hun. My fiance and I have talked about it but this is something that you keep a fantasy becuase it never turns out good and is wonderful as fantasy. Rent the movie " monster" and see it....DONT DO IT!

[CalistaClap]

I wouldn't surprise her. It may be something that she really doesn't want.

Talk to her about it and ask if it is something that would interest her.

[eightball61]

I think you are better off talking to her about your fantasies rather than suprising. This is just one of those surprises she may not go for.

[CTAnd14]

I think that if you were going to suprise her and do something sweet/affectionate to lavish her with love/attention...you should take into account her fantasy not your own. You said this is a fantasy of yours, but then make it sound like it is for her. You need to figure out if this is your fantasy or hers...

Best of luck!

[smackie9]

Even if she feels comfortable enough to try it, when you do try it, you may get some negative results. Jelousy can rear it's ugly head. How would you feel when you see your wife enjoying pleasures with another man? And how will she react when she see you with another woman? As a woman, there's no way I would want ual contact with a woman..ever! Becareful about bringing up this topic because she may think she's not enough for you ually..that's an ego buster.

[jennrocks]

Well, I disagree. I think that rich is right on with the 3-some video idea.

my husband and i have enjoyed the lifestyle for 5 years. we have been married for 8. it takes substantial ground rules, and a clear understanding of why either one of you want to do this. in our case, my husband considered an important addition to our life if he could watch me. that's how we got into it.

because i love my husband and only love my husband, till death do us part, we have been able to separate from feelings.

it is not for everyone. but it does not always end badly.

[yourstruly]

I'm with the concensus...don't surprise her with it. This is your fantasy, and unless the two of you have talked about it and you KNOW for a fact that it is a fantasy to her too, then don't set it up without her knowledge.