My B/f and

[Hiitsjustme]

So today I got in an argument with my b/f regarding his . He has always been open with me about it and has never hid it from me. I do however have a slight problem with it. He knows this and tells me that he doesnt even look at it that much and that the girls dont mean anything to him and blah blah blah. Its not even that, I understand men look at it, but what bothers me is that he pays for it. Like those monthly subscription type sites. Well then he ends up telling me that my myspace account is worse than him looking at . First of all I am not on myspace masturbating to the pics of my friends, because thats all I have on there are my friends. He says myspace is a place where people hook up and doesnt agree with me having it. I think him paying for is way worse than me having myspace. What do you think? Especially guys.

[Diablo]

Most guys are into these days. This could be a thorn in the side of the relationship for a good while. What would you say if he offered to give up if you gave up your myspace? We all have interests outside our relationships; however, having a girlfriend should lessen a guy's interest in . I don't think it's too swift to keep much around myself since a lot of women are either offended by it or intimidated by it. Do y'all have other issues or is this the main one? How important is it to you that your bf not watch ? If it's a biggie, you might want to think about ending the relationship because chances are that you aren't going to change him. So you need to think about whether or not you can accept the .

[eightball61]

Just to clear this up: Are you "ok" with him looking at but not "ok" with him buying it? or are you not "ok" about it all together?

Diablo is right & the chances of changing him are very slim. Every relationship has it's own share of problems & this issue seems to be the problem for you both. What you both will need to do as a couple is to find some way to compromise to each other's needs. If you both can't compromise then save the headache & part ways while you still can. Your gonna have to realize though that's it going to be very hard to find a partner that is as open as your boyfriend is about ....Most of them hide/lie about it.



~8Ball

[yourstruly]

is that it's okay as long as it doesn't interfere with the quality AND quantity of in the relationship. I think most women are intimidated by it and that creates a trust issue. Just make sure the communication is always open between the two of you and there should never be a problem.

He is comparing his watching to your myspace involvement. Which tells me that his watching is not that serious of a thing to him.

Either of you should be able to quit if you wanted to----that is, quit the addiction (his addiction to , and your addiction to your myspace). If you can't quit, then there's the root of the problem.

[Howard]

Does interfere in your relationship with your boyfriend? :confused:

[NYC418]

This pisses me off, because I've been there myself once. What is sooooo special about when you have a girlfriend? Is your girlfriend not good enough? I mean, from my female point of view, these girls are nothing but sad, worthless and pathetic. They don't have enough brains to get by any other way. So why are guys soooo attracted to it? Wouldn't guys prefer to have a nice, live GF with a brain as well as appeal? I really wanna know, from a guy's point of view, what exactly are you thinking about when you look at these girls? How beautiful they are, how you wish your gf looked like them? ugh. Mind you, these girls are nothing but silicone, hair extensions, and make up! They're not real. I don't know....females tend to understand this but guys don't. I'm sorry I didn't answer your question, but this reminded me of how pissed off I was once when I found out my BF liked . UGH!

[yourstruly]

This pisses me off, because I've been there myself once. What is sooooo special about when you have a girlfriend? Is your girlfriend not good enough? I mean, from my female point of view, these girls are nothing but sad, worthless and pathetic. They don't have enough brains to get by any other way. So why are guys soooo attracted to it? Wouldn't guys prefer to have a nice, live GF with a brain as well as appeal? I really wanna know, from a guy's point of view, what exactly are you thinking about when you look at these girls? How beautiful they are, how you wish your gf looked like them? ugh. Mind you, these girls are nothing but silicone, hair extensions, and make up! They're not real. I don't know....females tend to understand this but guys don't. I'm sorry I didn't answer your question, but this reminded me of how pissed off I was once when I found out my BF liked . UGH!

from what I know (and I answered this very same question on a previous thread), that men have a thought of their "ideal" woman, and always will. There's nothing we can do that will change that. However, just because they oogle and drool over that ideal woman (whether it be in a video or on the street, etc), it doesn't mean they WANT that kind of woman. They are not trying to replace their present woman with the ideal woman. (and for those that DO, THOSE are the ones with the major problem, for they live in a dream world). In fact, I think most men wouldn't even know what to do with a star. LOL. I think they'd totally freeze. Probably couldn't even get it up. LOL.

I answered above, as to how *I* feel about . I've had a couple of boyfriends that were into , but I always made sure that the didn't supercede our relationship. Hell, *I* even look at ever so often. It's a pleasant escape from reality sometimes! But I certainly wouldn't let it take the place of a current relationship and I don't dream of myself having with that man.

[Hiitsjustme]

This pisses me off, because I've been there myself once. What is sooooo special about when you have a girlfriend? Is your girlfriend not good enough? I mean, from my female point of view, these girls are nothing but sad, worthless and pathetic. They don't have enough brains to get by any other way. So why are guys soooo attracted to it? Wouldn't guys prefer to have a nice, live GF with a brain as well as appeal? I really wanna know, from a guy's point of view, what exactly are you thinking about when you look at these girls? How beautiful they are, how you wish your gf looked like them? ugh. Mind you, these girls are nothing but silicone, hair extensions, and make up! They're not real. I don't know....females tend to understand this but guys don't. I'm sorry I didn't answer your question, but this reminded me of how pissed off I was once when I found out my BF liked . UGH!

So what did you do? Do you think there are guys out there that dont look at when they have a g/f? I could understand if the guy was single, but why when you have a g/f? Btw we broke up.

[eightball61]

Do you think there are guys out there that dont look at when they have a g/f?

Maybe, but most people look and don't tell. At least your ex. was open about it.



~8Ball

[Howard]

I admit that I look at because I have on the brain and I need some adult entertainment on the side.I mean the dry humping with her was great last Sunday but I need something more to view sometimes.

[eightball61]

I admit that I look at because I have on the brain and I need some adult entertainment on the side.I mean the dry humping with her was great last Sunday but I need something more to view sometimes.


Howard,

Does Robin know that you come here and give detailed information like this about your relationship?

[angeleyes325]

I was just wondering the same thing myself. I mean some women are comfortable with the hubbies and BFs looking at as long as they are open about it. Others, not so much.

Which brings me to wonder the same thing 8ball asked, Have you told Robin that you look at Howard?

[yourstruly]

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[angeleyes325]

I know dats right Truly..lol Howard, my friend TMI.

[eightball61]

we don't want/need to know about your dry humping, Howard. I've suggested to you before to look at and , but we don't want/need to KNOW about what you do. This is not that kind of site.


But that makes it ok for you to say:

Hell, *I* even like to look at guys jacking off on webcams ever so often..

talk "is" ALLOWED on these boards but of course to a certain degree. Howard does go overboard at times but you have no room to talk yourself. Before you criticize others for their actions you need to take a look at your doing first.

~8Ball

[yourstruly]

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[eightball61]

FYI, this thread is ABOUT . Howard's thread, however, is not.



What are you talking about???

You're contradicting your own wording here..... You told Howard: This is not that kind of site but then your giving the ok to do it on this thread because you've done it. The world does not revolve around you. Jeezzzz...no wonder you can't get a guy to call you back. You meet them on the net and then scare them off. These guys are actually smart....not dumb. :rolleyes:


Peace,

~8Ball

[yourstruly]

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[eightball61]

eightball my darling, I am not a hypocrite, so don't even go there. This thread is talking about , and was mentioned. What I said had everything to do with and . I am not trying to justify anything. If I was, I'd say I was..

& so wasn't Howard......


You think you are God around here and I'm just trying to knock you down a peg or two, which is what I did by what I said. .

Where are you getting these silly assumptions from???

You are the one that seems to know everything but then you can’t even help yourself. I was the mature one earlier and kept things off the board by messaging you but you decided to be the immature and take shots on people's threads. Soooooooo, don’t even blame me for killing threads. I have learned to keep my mouth shut in the past week but the in you just doesn’t seem to give up. Grow the f**k up……jeezzz you’re almost 40 so act like it.

And you are being no help right now because you are taking things from MY threads and throwing it on my face on other threads. That is NOT ACCEPTABLE..

Everything I took was in this thread......Read your post.

[yourstruly]

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[sherrylynn75]

I have to agree with 8ball on this one. Why is it ok for you to talk about what you enjoy watching in this THREAD but not ok for Howard to mention what he enjoys in this THREAD?? What you said was alot more graphic.

[eightball61]

btw, we (meaning you, me, AND others) had already told Howard to keep his ual stuff to himself......don't you remember? So what's so wrong with me reminding him of it?????

Edit: I ereased the previous message because there's no point in arguing with a brick wall.

[eightball61]

I have to agree with 8ball on this one. Why is it ok for you to talk about what you enjoy watching in this THREAD but not ok for Howard to mention what he enjoys in this THREAD?? What you said was alot more graphic.

Thank You!!!!

& Welcome to the boards :)



~8ball

[yourstruly]

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[yourstruly]

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[sherrylynn75]

sherrylynn, you'd have to read Howards whole "My Girlfriend" thread to understand what we are talking about here.....

I read it thanx for the suggestion though. i'm well aware of what you all are talking about

[eightball61]

Your opinions are no longer welcome.


I've heard that one before http://www.spacespider.net/emo/common046.gif

If you wish not to have a conversation like this again then be a little more respectful to those on these boards and keep your comments to yourself instead of acting like you're "Queen B".

Good Day,

~8Ball

[yourstruly]

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[sherrylynn75]

No need to cop an attitude with me. Yes today is the first time I have posted. Today is the first time I signed up but I have been visiting this site for about a month now and reading some of the threads.

[sherrylynn75]

I doubt it sherrylynn, you just joined today, how ironic, and also how ironic that you post in AGREEANCE with eightball AGAINST me, right after he does. There's no way you coulda read Howard's whole thread.

Try again. This time with someone who cares. I don't play games.


It is possible for more than one person to disagree with you. Not trying to offend you just sticking up for Howard. And trust me honey i'm certainly not trying to play games with you. Try not to get so defensive

[Howard]

Howard,

Does Robin know that you come here and give detailed information like this about your relationship?


No,I don't. :o

[Howard]

I was just wondering the same thing myself. I mean some women are comfortable with the hubbies and BFs looking at as long as they are open about it. Others, not so much.

Which brings me to wonder the same thing 8ball asked, Have you told Robin that you look at Howard?


Yes she knows I look at but she's not a person herself.She thinks I should focus more on trying to gain employment instead of looking at adult entertainment.The problem is,I have way too much time on my hands in the afternoon and not enough to keep me busy throughout the day.

[Howard]

we don't want/need to know about your dry humping, Howard. I've suggested to you before to look at and , but we don't want/need to KNOW about what you do. This is not that kind of site.



I'm sorry everybody.I should shut my mouth sometimes. :(

[yourstruly]

I'm sorry everybody.I should shut my mouth sometimes. :(

I'm sorry Howard, that this became all about you and what you said. But I was just reminding you that you agreed to keep the ual stuff about you and Robin to yourself, or at least, off of this board. I even suggested that if you wanted the addy to another board that you CAN talk about stuff like that on, and get answers to all of your ual questions, but you never messaged me to get it. I DO understand that you need to talk to someone about it all, but I don't think this is the place to do it. This site is about relationships. This other place I was going to suggest to you is about relationships AND .

is good.

is ok when used in a healthy manner and as long as it doesn't become an addiction. Even talking about things we like to watch and see is good. We all do it, in some form or another.

But talking about dry humping your gf isn't.

I hope you understand.

Sorry again, hiitsjustme. None of this even belongs here.

[yourstruly]

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[eightball61]

Big difference between he and I when he and I disagree. When I disagree with something HE does or says, he throws MY threads and things about MY life in my face. But when he disagrees with something I do or say, I say that ALL of us give our opinions and that no one is right or wrong.



Why still go on about this. The overall point here is that you agree to your advice on this subject and I disagree. I only threw that stuff in your face because A. Leave yourself open & B. you get on my case about "my" advice.

I fully respect those that don't agree with my advice but I don't respect those that don't respect me. After we had it out on another thread I left you alone. You then decided to add fuel to the fire by your disrespecting comments. If you can voice an opinion on a thread then I can voice mine.

If you read through any my old post (before you became a member here) you'll see that I have said many times that these boards are open to an opinion. Some people agree and some people don't agree. This is all apart of human nature. If we were all to agree then life in general would be very boring.

I done calling shots with you simply because it's not worth my time. We are killing theads and making these boards look bad. It's ok to disagree but the approach that you have taken by not letting go is ruining these threads. Disagreement can make a thread interesting but not in the manner that we have took it. I will be fully responsible & apologize for the tone that I have used on this thread but that was from the fustration on you "trying" to prove that your always correct when trying to prove me wrong.

I am far from being god so don't even ever go there again. Next time you don't agree with me you can either A. shut your mouth; or B. be a little more mature about your disagreements.....

I really don't know what's up your ass but when someone disagrees with your advice you harp on them even though you continously say that these boards are open to opinion. You always contradict your own wording and that's what I am trying to point out to you. I am not calling the shots to harp on you. I am calling the shots to make you realize that you simply don't make any sense.

You have apologized twice to hitsjustme but then you keep going on. Why can't you just let go and drop the subject if it makes you that irritable. You said many times that you are going to ignore me but then you still choose not to...Why? Again you are contradicting your own words.

Again, I do apologize for the tone in this thread but I kinda find this topic interesting because of the popularity it has spark and hearing the difference in opinions from those that have replied. I going let things be from here though. Deep down I am a very happy & fun guy. This is where you don't know me yourstruly. You can only base a mental image of me from my words. To me that's not proper judgement but to you that's how you meet people. We obviously see the world in a differents ways. I welcome your disagreements in the future but I hope they don't take the course as they did here.

~8Ball

[Howard]

I'm sorry Howard, that this became all about you and what you said. But I was just reminding you that you agreed to keep the ual stuff about you and Robin to yourself, or at least, off of this board. I even suggested that if you wanted the addy to another board that you CAN talk about stuff like that on, and get answers to all of your ual questions, but you never messaged me to get it. I DO understand that you need to talk to someone about it all, but I don't think this is the place to do it. This site is about relationships. This other place I was going to suggest to you is about relationships AND .

is good.

is ok when used in a healthy manner and as long as it doesn't become an addiction. Even talking about things we like to watch and see is good. We all do it, in some form or another.

But talking about dry humping your gf isn't.

I hope you understand.

Sorry again, hiitsjustme. None of this even belongs here.



Thanks For Understanding Truly.I will try to keep my ual comments off the board and try to talk about other situations.My apologies again. :)

[yourstruly]

Why still go on about this. The overall point here is that you agree to your advice on this subject and I disagree. I only threw that stuff in your face because A. Leave yourself open & B. you get on my case about "my" advice.

I fully respect those that don't agree with my advice but I don't respect those that don't respect me. After we had it out on another thread I left you alone. You then decided to add fuel to the fire by your disrespecting comments. If you can voice an opinion on a thread then I can voice mine.

If you read through any my old post (before you became a member here) you'll see that I have said many times that these boards are open to an opinion. Some people agree and some people don't agree. This is all apart of human nature. If we were all to agree then life in general would be very boring.

I done calling shots with you simply because it's not worth my time. We are killing theads and making these boards look bad. It's ok to disagree but the approach that you have taken by not letting go is ruining these threads. Disagreement can make a thread interesting but not in the manner that we have took it. I will be fully responsible & apologize for the tone that I have used on this thread but that was from the fustration on you "trying" to prove that your always correct when trying to prove me wrong.

I am far from being god so don't even ever go there again. Next time you don't agree with me you can either A. shut your mouth; or B. be a little more mature about your disagreements.....

I really don't know what's up your ass but when someone disagrees with your advice you harp on them even though you continously say that these boards are open to opinion. You always contradict your own wording and that's what I am trying to point out to you. I am not calling the shots to harp on you. I am calling the shots to make you realize that you simply don't make any sense.

You have apologized twice to hitsjustme but then you keep going on. Why can't you just let go and drop the subject if it makes you that irritable. You said many times that you are going to ignore me but then you still choose not to...Why? Again you are contradicting your own words.

Again, I do apologize for the tone in this thread but I kinda find this topic interesting because of the popularity it has spark and hearing the difference in opinions from those that have replied. I going let things be from here though. Deep down I am a very happy & fun guy. This is where you don't know me yourstruly. You can only base a mental image of me from my words. To me that's not proper judgement but to you that's how you meet people. We obviously see the world in a differents ways. I welcome your disagreements in the future but I hope they don't take the course as they did here.

~8Ball

you'll never understand me and I'll never let you get close enough TO understand me, so the best thing is just not to say anything to each other. End of subject.

[eightball61]

you'll never understand me and I'll never let you get close enough TO understand me,

Oh...trust me on this one. I am probably one of the smarter guys in this world that wouldn't want to get to know you any more than I already do.



so the best thing is just not to say anything to each other. End of subject.

Gotta have last word.......See this is what I meant in my last post :rolleyes:. You outta call yourself the Engerizer Bunny because you just keep going......&......going.......&.......going.




BYE (once again),

~8Ball

[eightball61]

Thanks For Understanding Truly.I will try to keep my ual comments off the board and try to talk about other situations.My apologies again. :)


Howard, according to "condraticting girl" you're ALLOWED to speak this way on this thread.



This thread is talking about , and was mentioned. What I said had everything to do with and .


See Howard, if other's can do it then you're not in the wrong for doing it yourself.


Smile it's Friday :)

~8Ball

[yourstruly]

that I am sorry to everyone for getting myself involved in this argument between eightball and I on this thread. The argument had nothing at all to do with the thread itself and should have been done in private. I lost my cool and shouldn't have. I am very outspoken but sometimes I just need to keep things to myself, so I am sorry.

hiitsjustme, if you are reading this, I am so sorry that you and your bf broke up because of the , and if you will, can you please give us an update? I would like to help in any way that I can. Hope we didn't scare you off.

[Howard]

Howard, according to "condraticting girl" you're ALLOWED to speak this way on this thread.






See Howard, if other's can do it then you're not in the wrong for doing it yourself.


Smile it's Friday :)

~8Ball


How is that possible that I'm allowed to speak THAT way on THIS Board? :confused:

[eightball61]

How is that possible that I'm allowed to speak THAT way on THIS Board? :confused:


Personally I see no wrong in asking questions but there is a little thing called "To Much Information". Howard, if you have something ual to ask then try to keep it basic rather than going into details.

[queen jezebell]

I look at it like this like truly said unless it interferes with quality time then its no big deal if you have no problem with it then you have to know its going to cost money how else is he going to get it and personally from my point of view as long he's just looking he's not cheating on you because would you rather he watched or went and cheated on you. it can always be worse and as far as being a female i very much enjoy watching and me and my bf watch it together and it fuels a passion for each other so maybe you should really think if you're really ok with it or not and thats the breaking point. :)

[Hiitsjustme]

Hi, well my b/f and I are back together and worked things out. Your advice helped me to chill out a little. Thanks again!!

[eightball61]

Thanks again!!


Take Care ;)

~8Ball

[Howard]

Personally I see no wrong in asking questions but there is a little thing called "To Much Information". Howard, if you have something ual to ask then try to keep it basic rather than going into details.



I'm sorry about that.I'll try to keep it to a limit. ;)