2 persons in your heart

[petslover]

Just wondering, is it possible to love 2 persons at the same time? If yes, is it normal or common among many people even though you are married? Can you love these 2 persons equally?

Does it consider an affair then if your loved ones have someone else in mind when he said he loves only you? This is in the context of just emotional, mushy sms but no physical contact & not seeing each other.

[eightball61]

In your last thread you told us that you have to wait 3 years before you can divorce him due to your county's laws. In order for this countdown to begin you both must be seperated for those three years. So the question stands: What are are you holding onto??? Are you holding onto "hope"???

I really don't know what it's going to take for you to leave but I do hope that you soon realize that there is no point in staying with him. His actions have made it clear that it's not going to be easy for him to change.
The longer you stay with him the longer this will continue.......This isn't love.

~8Ball

P.S
Thank You, Yourstruly for pointing that out to me.

[yourstruly]

from reading in between the lines, I think she possibly found text messages from her hubby to another woman, telling that woman that he loves her. Right petslover?

And btw, I thought you were leaving him?

anyway, I personally don't think that one can "love" someone they've never met--someone they are just talking to thru text messages, or online---at least not the kind of "love" that should compare to a husband and a wife.

I have told you this many times.......but your husband has problems, petslover. And it seems that you've tried and tried and tried to get him to stop what he is doing, and he is still doing it. I am afraid that he is never going to change and you are just going to keep getting hurt til you won't be able to love nor trust anyone ever again.....

why are you giving him so many chances?????

[keepsgoin]

There is nothing you can do to change his mind...in his mind he is in love with this woman...it is a fantasy love that he has in his mind. It's not reality but there is nothing that you will ever do to change his mind. This is what I would suggest for you to do if you could possibly be so strong...let him go to her. I will bet he'll come running back when to you when fantasy becomes reality! Maybe things will be better than ever when he comes back. This may sound crazy but I have first hand knowledge of this and that's why I'm suggesting to do this.

[petslover]

Yes, 8balls & yourstruly, I've indeed planned to leave him, howver, I still continue my usual checking on him. Since my last post here, he has not attempt to look for any pay , for whatever reasons.

The mushy sms that he sent to this woman was his old friend whom he used to like(he told me b4). They have lost contact for very long time, but got to contact each other again some time ago. However, that does not give me the suspicion that they are actually emotionally attached. Most of the time, they just call each other & sms, but have not met up so far.

I post this thread, not just about him, but also about me. As I also have another man in mind, yet still love me husband.

Hope all these are clear, questions in this new thread does not mean I am holding on to him. In fact, I am looking for the right time to leave him.

[yourstruly]

petslover, there's too many games going on here. If you and your husband cannot be faithful to each other, then end the marriage.

[eightball61]

I post this thread, not just about him, but also about me. As I also have another man in mind, yet still love me husband.




So that answers my original question before I edited my last post.......All-in-all I think it's time you seperate yourself from this marriage. You can't divorce for a while but you can seperate yourself and start to work on you.



~8Ball

[Howard]

I guess you can love 2 people at the same time but one of them should be considered a friend and nothing more than that and the other should be considered your wife.So,It's ok to love 2 people even though you're married.