LifeGoesOn
01-02-2006, 02:20 AM
Hi i just joined the board but with my current girlfreind we have a few fights in the past that are still on my mind that i would like to share and get opinions on.
I have a hard time trusting people. Especially in a relationship because sometimes i am scared of how much i care for this girl and how much she could actually hurt me. Since the day we met i was constantly preaching the idea of being completely honest with each other.
Heres the story.
When me and her met we met at a party. She met another guy that night at the party too. A guy nicknamed "A" just to keep stuff secretive. Well i called her a day after the party and we instantly clicked and had a nice conversation. We planned to meet at the rec. center the next day since i had basketball practice and she wanted to shoot around a bit. We had our first kiss in a basketball game together that day. Later that day after i left the rec. i called her and she told me she would call me back because she was watching "The Grudge" with her family. we became a official couple 2 weeks after that. Months and Months and Months go by and recently in a conversation we had i asked her if she has kissed anyone else since we met. She said yes. I asked who and she said "A". Come to find out she lied about the movie incedent. She was actually with him and lied to me about it. Her argument was that she knew i wouldnt like it and that she didnt know wether we would get together. It bothers me she kissed him just because of how i feel now, but its the fact that she was able to lie to me, in my face about it.
Thats the story we argued over it for a while and its still something i think about from time to time when i try and trust her. Am i overreacting or is this a legitimate reason to be mad?
We werent together when she did it so its not cheating, and it was a long time ago, but it bothers me that she was able and willing to lie to me purposely because she didnt want me to get mad.
Discuss :D
I have a hard time trusting people. Especially in a relationship because sometimes i am scared of how much i care for this girl and how much she could actually hurt me. Since the day we met i was constantly preaching the idea of being completely honest with each other.
Heres the story.
When me and her met we met at a party. She met another guy that night at the party too. A guy nicknamed "A" just to keep stuff secretive. Well i called her a day after the party and we instantly clicked and had a nice conversation. We planned to meet at the rec. center the next day since i had basketball practice and she wanted to shoot around a bit. We had our first kiss in a basketball game together that day. Later that day after i left the rec. i called her and she told me she would call me back because she was watching "The Grudge" with her family. we became a official couple 2 weeks after that. Months and Months and Months go by and recently in a conversation we had i asked her if she has kissed anyone else since we met. She said yes. I asked who and she said "A". Come to find out she lied about the movie incedent. She was actually with him and lied to me about it. Her argument was that she knew i wouldnt like it and that she didnt know wether we would get together. It bothers me she kissed him just because of how i feel now, but its the fact that she was able to lie to me, in my face about it.
Thats the story we argued over it for a while and its still something i think about from time to time when i try and trust her. Am i overreacting or is this a legitimate reason to be mad?
We werent together when she did it so its not cheating, and it was a long time ago, but it bothers me that she was able and willing to lie to me purposely because she didnt want me to get mad.
Discuss :D