Advice on his Ex Girlfriend

[missy]

Hello - I would like some advice on what to do about my partner's ex girl friend, he split up with her to be with me, and since then, she has continued to try and come between us. It has has not reached the stage that her name makes me very anxious and we are beginning to argue because of her. He feels he wants to be civil to her, and realises that she is hurting. I just dont know how to deal with it, as it makes me upset. She is very sneaky and I feel that she plays on his kindness. She now chats to him via the internet and the other day she called him and when I asked who it was, he lied and told me it was someone else, I checked the caller ID and wasnt happy when I saw her number. So in essence, I am becoming more and more distrusting of him.

What is the best way to handle it? any advice would be great.

Many thanks
Missy

[eightball61]

Before this lie he hasn't given you a reason not to trust him but since he lied everything now changes. He needs to make the choice of either you or her. I am willing to bet that he still has feelings for her because if he didn't then he would have no reason to talk with her. You need to foot your foot down to him on this and stick with what you demand. If things look fishy down the road then snoop around to find your answer but make it clear that if he lies again then that will be his last time ever lieing to you.


~8Ball

[yourstruly]

Ok, so he broke up with her to be with you, right? First of all, in my opinion, you shouldn't have done that. If it were me, I'd waited at least two or three weeks after their breakup before dating him.

Second of all, if he's chatting with her on the computer and talking to her on the phone, but HE IS YOUR BOYFRIEND, then that's totally taboo. Specially if he is hiding it. Big RED fat flag! Obviously they have unfinished business.

If it were me, I'd give him his walking papers.