Drinking

[mjllv1]

Hello,

My girlfriend has always been the goody-goody type. When she and I started dating, she told me that in order for us to be together, she didn't want me to
drink, or party anymore. At first it was hard for me to give up that part of my life that I was so used to. After a while I was glad of this change and realized
that I was a much better person without that aspect of my life. It seems like all too often in a relationship one person ends up corrupting the other and lowering
their standards, but I felt this was the exact opposite. I have told her many times that I respect her alot for her choice not to drink and one of the reasons I love her is that she doesn't fall into peer pressure like many other girls do these days. Recently she has begun to change her way of thinking. Last night she told me
that shes thought about starting to party with her friends and start drinking(shes underage). This really dissapointed me. I've given up a part of my life and quit
hanging out with some of my friends that are bad influences to be with her. I guess i just feel that she's being hypocritical. I mean she tells me that she doesnt
want to be with someone who lived that type of lifestyle, and then later on she wants to live that lifestyle. I've always liked the fact that she was different than the average girl and didn't try to fit in. I think her friends are starting to change her or pressure her into drinking. Should I be upset about this or am I overreacting? :confused:

Thanks for your advice

[eightball61]

Hello,

My girlfriend has always been the goody-goody type. When she and I started dating, she told me that in order for us to be together, she didn't want me to
drink, or party anymore. At first it was hard for me to give up that part of my life that I was so used to. After a while I was glad of this change and realized
that I was a much better person without that aspect of my life. It seems like all too often in a relationship one person ends up corrupting the other and lowering
their standards, but I felt this was the exact opposite. I have told her many times that I respect her alot for her choice not to drink and one of the reasons I love her is that she doesn't fall into peer pressure like many other girls do these days. Recently she has begun to change her way of thinking. Last night she told me
that shes thought about starting to party with her friends and start drinking(shes underage). This really dissapointed me. I've given up a part of my life and quit
hanging out with some of my friends that are bad influences to be with her. I guess i just feel that she's being hypocritical. I mean she tells me that she doesnt
want to be with someone who lived that type of lifestyle, and then later on she wants to live that lifestyle. I've always liked the fact that she was different than the average girl and didn't try to fit in. I think her friends are starting to change her or pressure her into drinking. Should I be upset about this or am I overreacting? :confused:

Thanks for your advice

How old are you?

[mjllv1]

We both are 19. My age doesn't make me immature, I'm sure I've been through alot more life experiences than many that are older than me.

[eightball61]

I never stated that your age equals "lack of maturity"..............It seems to me that your girlfriend has some insecurity issues because if this wasn't true then she wouldn't be going against her own beliefs. I am willing to bet that she had you stop parting because she saw it as a potential threat to the relationship. You shouldn’t have to change yourself entirely for the other person. She bossed you around and she got her way. You can make a stand for your beliefs but be prepared that she may just go against them. You both need to talk and come to compromising agreement about this matter.

[Diablo]

Women change their minds. Chances are she was sincere when she told you that she doesn't want a man who drinks, but now she seems to see things a bit differently. Sobriety is a great thing and you shouldn't let this girl's flip/flop on that issue get you drinking again. There are plenty more girls out there; including some that don't drink.