am i missing something

[oakknoll]

I met someone two months ago. When we first started talking, I told her that if I was going to be in a relationship, that it was going to be at 110% or nothing at all. I also explained that what I meant by that is I wanted someone who I could communicate with in ALL situations and that if things ever got to the point where I was no longer happy, then I was done. She agreed wholeheartedly on me with this one. We have had many conversations about relationships and what we thought were good points and bad.

I am not quite sure how she feels about me. She does not express this to me. When I give her a hug, it is she seems to be distant, and does not embrace it, or try to put any “energy” into it. I have sent her a couple simple cards telling her how I feel. Nothing overwhelming. The deal is she never acknowledges I sent them to her unless I ask. Then it is “yes, it was nice, thank you” then when I spend Saturday night with her, she wakes up Sunday, and heads off to her parent’s house for the day. I met her family on thanksgiving, and have yet to be invited with her since I met her parents. She had even told me her mother invited me over, and she still did not ask me to go. We went to a very formal party last week, which I thought was something special, and then on Sunday, it was bye, I’m going to my parents, see you later.

This relationship is far from even running at even 70%. Am I being blown off, or am I just a convienence for her.

[Rich]

You mentioned that you both spoke early on a laid down the ground rules about giving 110%.

Talk to your girlfriend and explain what you just wrote here and say that you don't feel that the relationship is at 110%. See what she feels before deciding to move on.

Maybe she doesn't want to let you in her inner wall sanctum yet, for whatever reason. Maybe she was really hurt before you and that's the reason why.

Talk and communicate. If she's just not willing to commit, then move on.


Rich

[eightball61]

A relationship is a relationship.....By character we are all different in many ways. We express our love differently from person to person. You are very statistical about things in your relationship. You seem like a straight foward guy and you know what you want.

The only problem though that runs into play with being this straight is you have to think about your partner. She has showed that she isn't as open as you like to be. If we reverse the roles some typically is the male gender that lacks the communication. I think you being open is great but you have to accept the differences in people.

You both only been together for 2 months and in the dating world that is still new. You finally met the parents and don't take it to offense that you are not spending much time there with her yet. You both have to work together and you pace is a little faster so you may have to slow down some. Its all about working together though and taking things from there.

[CalistaClap]

Maybe she's just not as ready as you are. Maybe she wants to take it a bit slower.

[eightball61]

Maybe she's just not as ready as you are. Maybe she wants to take it a bit slower.


Hey calista :D

[oakknoll]

no, she just did not want to be with me. she did not want me to cuddle with her, she did not want me to be next to her. cannot figure out why she played this game.

the only time she wanted me, or said anything to me is when she was drunk.

just one big game.

i dumped her.

[Rich]

Plenty more fish in the sea. Re-Bait your hook and throw it in. :D