unsure?

[spiderlady04]

ok so I have never done this before so I thought I would give it a try..
Well here is the situation

I met this really nice guy a couple of years ago and fell madly in love with him..things didn't end up working out and we broke up...I started dating one of his friends and we hit it off not at first but eventually. The group of friends I used to hang out with back then the old b/f still does and I haven't heard much about him until lately. The popular thing now a days seems to be live journals online.. I have been reading his and just recently he put a poem on it about how he was wrong and that if only.. In it he also called me his insane ex....our old friends used to say that him and I were soulmates and that we were ment to be togather only problem is we fought all the time...I guess fought is the wrong word ...we used to get into spats about silly stuff everyone around us thought we were serious but we knew that we would still be leaving togather at the end of the night.
My current boyfriend says that he thinks I was the most exccentric girl my ex had ever dated and that was what made our relationship exciting..Lately me and my current boyfriend have been talking about getting married and I am all for it..but this thought in the back of my mind is what if ...what if I really am supposed to be with the other guy what if everyone was right...now the only problem is that a huge fight tore my group of friends up and he ended up on the other side. In his journal he posted that there are some people who still feel that him and I are ment to be...I just wanted to know what everyone else thought and if my old friends could be right..... dazed and oh so very confused...

[Rich]

Spiderlady-

IMO the only people that can accurately guage a relationship are the people that are in it. As the saying goes, unless you walk a mile in someone else's shoes, don't comment on their life.

Your friends, which it seems that you put a great deal of weight upon what they think, weren't in the relationship with your old BF. Only you were.

Things often look different from the outside looking in and you never know what goes on behind closed doors. So, your friends can't know all that went on in your relationship and are forming opinions without knowing everything.

Whether or not you made the right decision about your old BF is totally up to you. Look in your heart and listen to what it says. It won't steer you wrong and you have to trust it. As for your current BF and talking marriage. THERE SHOULD BE NO WHAT IF'S when it comes to marriage!

If you have what if's, then you should hold off on any marriage talk. Obviously the bond isn't strong enough for that marriage to succeed. When deciding to get married there should be no doubts or longings for old boyfriends.

Just my two cents. Forget what your friends are saying. Instead, what is your heart saying? My intuition also tells me that maybe you want to get back with your old BF and that maybe your using your friends comments as your justification to do so. Make up your own mind and feel comfortable and confident with your decision.

Good luck.

Rich
www.awesomerelationships.com

[spiderlady04]

See the thing is that me and my friends have not spoken for over six months because they were angry that Drue(my current bf) wanted to stay with me and i wanted to stay with him.I had mentioned at the time that I might have had some feelings for Kyle(old BF) still. Well after we all stopped talking Drue and I became best friends and we really got to know each other and I completely feel in love with him and became dependant on him for a lot of aspects in my life. I stopped thinking about Kyle until recently when my bf started talking about him and when I read his online journal. I just wondered if the whole soulmate thing if really true. I know we haven't talked and he sometimes calls me his insane ex even though everyone tells him he was crazy for leaving me... I just dont know how to handle the situation at all. I am not even sure if the kyle will ever talk to me

[eightball61]

See the thing is that me and my friends have not spoken for over six months because they were angry that Drue(my current bf) wanted to stay with me and i wanted to stay with him.


You know for get them then...You have a good man in front of you and your group has moved on. That is thier lost. Together you both will gain new friends and respectable ones too.

Now I know you mention that you are wondering about your ex but you have to make a decision on what you want. You are in a relationship. You are not married yet and thats good but if you ex is part of that group that you havn't spoken to in 6 months then let it go.

I say let it go in that case because they may have moved on and if you risk to try to get back to him you may lose out and he may not want you back. I don't mean that in a mean way but what I am saying think about what you have now or what you want and make a decision from there.