aul dreams

[dantes]

my girlfriend has twice had aul dreams about her ex boyfriend. whilst having these dreans she moans and groans and calls out his name. anyone else experienced this? should i be concerned? we have been dating for 9 months

[Vawljk]

I would be upset if my girlfriend called out her ex's name. Does she talk about him alot? Does she compare you to him? If she does, she probably still has strong feelings for him.
Just my opinion.

[yourstruly]

my girlfriend has twice had aul dreams about her ex boyfriend. whilst having these dreans she moans and groans and calls out his name. anyone else experienced this? should i be concerned? we have been dating for 9 months


hmmm, I wouldn't consider this to be normal. I did a project on dreams waaaay back in junior high and one of the things I found while researching was that dreams are "our subconscious", specially if it is a recurring dream.

I would tend to think that if she is having ual dreams about her ex, then she isn't over him.

edit: does she know that you know??

[eightball61]

In reality, dreams can't be controlled so it's not her fault for dreaming this. Also,
tell her that you know about these dreams and express how you feel about them to her. You both just need to have a good warming talk so that she can comfort you in the way that you know that your "the one" for her.

[vixxxen]

Wow that is diffrent but her dreams have nothing to with her consious mind . Please read a dreamers dictionary . Most time dreams are about the total opposite of what we are dreaming .

[dantes]

thanks for the replies folks. i read on the internet that ual dreams of a previous partner mean that the person(i.e the dreamer) is currently ually frustrated. what do you think of this theory? this is what i intially thought before i did some research on the net.

and the reason i thought this is that prior to having with my girlfriend she told me that with her ex bf(the guy she dreams about) was "so much better" than any she had before.

so in this respect im assuming that with her ex was therefore no doubt a lot better than it is with me, hence the research i read on the net which states that aul dreams of past partenrs are due to ual frustratoin in ones current relationship.

am i way off the mark here?

[yourstruly]

thanks for the replies folks. i read on the internet that ual dreams of a previous partner mean that the person(i.e the dreamer) is currently ually frustrated. what do you think of this theory? this is what i intially thought before i did some research on the net.

and the reason i thought this is that prior to having with my girlfriend she told me that with her ex bf(the guy she dreams about) was "so much better" than any she had before.

so in this respect im assuming that with her ex was therefore no doubt a lot better than it is with me, hence the research i read on the net which states that aul dreams of past partenrs are due to ual frustratoin in ones current relationship.

am i way off the mark here?

No I don't think you are way off the mark, and the reason I responded as I did, is because this all ties into your other thread about her telling you (too many times to my opinion) that with her ex was so much better because of his size. She isn't over this guy. And if my theory is right, you and she are never going to be able to get past it unless these two things happen: 1) she puts him in the past and stops talking about how good was with him and 2) you get over being intimidated by the fact that she thinks was so much better with him because of his size. If those two things don't happen, in my opinion, the relationship, as a whole, is doomed.

[Howard]

So,She's not thinking about you? :confused:

[keepsgoin]

I can't believe that she would actually tell you that with someone else was better than with you...how freakin' rude!!!!!!! She needs to go find her a guy with a big....uuuuhhhhmmm...you know what! My BF is about 5-6 inches and is the most wonderful lover I've ever been with...It ain't about size! It's hurtful to make comments about a man's "size" and can cause them to be very selfconscious. My BF said he's had women in the past tell him he wasn't big enough...how shitty! To me, he's just perfect!

[Rich]

Your GF is inconsiderate and really just into the physicality of relationships. She also sounds immature and it's obvious that she craves the pleasure that her ex gave her.

I wouldn't view this girl to fill a wife spot right now as she's not mature enough to handle a marriage. I would move on and find another girl more right for you.

[eightball61]

I can't believe that she would actually tell you that with someone else was better than with you...how freakin' rude!!!!!!!!

I agree & unfortunately this will forever stick in his head now that she said this.

[yourstruly]

Poor guy :( And just to think.....he's wasting time with this girl when there's hundreds of women out there who would kill for a guy that would try THIS hard to make a relationship work!

[vixxxen]

I can't believe that she would actually tell you that with someone else was better than with you...how freakin' rude!!!!!!! She needs to go find her a guy with a big....uuuuhhhhmmm...you know what! My BF is about 5-6 inches and is the most wonderful lover I've ever been with...It ain't about size! It's hurtful to make comments about a man's "size" and can cause them to be very unselfconscious. My BF said he's had women in the past tell him he wasn't big enough...how shitty! To me, he's just perfect!

I can agree to that .It is not about the size at all.
You know whaqt you should do is tellher that some of the girls in the past had nicer tits and better attitudes and there better in bed . See how she feels when you give it right back to her. I also am with a man that is has a good sized package and he once had an ex who was a and critizied his package well Im glad dhe did for 1 reason only because Im having the greatest sack sessions a woman could wish for!!!! :) Her loss my gain ;)

[vixxxen]

I can't believe that she would actually tell you that with someone else was better than with you...how freakin' rude!!!!!!! She needs to go find her a guy with a big....uuuuhhhhmmm...you know what! My BF is about 5-6 inches and is the most wonderful lover I've ever been with...It ain't about size! It's hurtful to make comments about a man's "size" and can cause them to be very unselfconscious. My BF said he's had women in the past tell him he wasn't big enough...how shitty! To me, he's just perfect!

I can agree to that .It is not about the size at all.
You know what you should do is tell her that some of the girls in the past had nicer tits and better attitudes and there better in bed . See how she feels when you give it right back to her. I also am with a man that is has a good sized package and he once had an ex who was a and critizied his package well Im glad she did for 1 reason only because Im having the greatest sack sessions a woman could wish for!!!! :) Her loss my gain ;) And his package is perfect in my eyes Its all in the eyes of the beholder

[dantes]

thanks for that vixxen. some of you have mentioned in previous posts that my g/f may not be over her ex.

i would like advice about this: she has been split from her ex for about 2 years. when they split she found out she was pregnant(expecting twins). she sent the scan of the twins to her ex, however, she lost her scan of the twins so she had to email her ex to ask her to send the pregancy scan. he sent her this back. what i can't understand is why does she have this in her email inbox. that is, if i go into her inbox i see here exes email address sitting in the inbox cos that is the email where the scan pic of the twins are.

now ive thought to myself, why doesnt she download the pic and save it somewhere on her computer or even on to hard disk. its so annoying wen i use her email knowing that her exes email is in there.

am i incorrect for thinking she should delete this email and save the pic to hard drive or floppy? am i also wrong to think that she shouldn't have the scanned pics of the twins she lost in a miscarriage? that is, obviously it was a tragedy what happened, but shouldnt she put it behind her and move on, instead of having an email in her inbox from her ex which has the baby scan pics on it.

im really confused why she would keep that email from her ex. any more advice would be greatly appreciated. you have been great so far with your advice.

a final thought. my g/f split from her ex because he was unfaithful. i wonder if he would still have been with him if he never did that. i have seen poems she wrote about him proclaiming undying love for him.

i just feel im a second best option

[yourstruly]

dantes,

I don't know what else to tell you. If you and your girlfriend cannot communicate well enough to get thru these issues, then my opinion is that the two of you do not have a relationship that will last. You have to TALK to her and find out what's going on. We cannot really help you. All WE can do is give you hypothetical answers and be here for you for support.