Internet or Wife?

[kissingkerie]

Married a little over a year now. Things are great with us, except I realize that I'm spending a LOT of time on the internet, instead of with her.

Our life has certainly slowed down, and maybe I'm worried that I'm addicted to the internet. I don't know. Not to mention me gaining weight. Does everyone gain weight when they get married? I must have put on 20 lbs and am not thrilled about this at all.

So, while I like being married, there's all this other baggage that seems to be coming along with it that worries me.

Any thoughts?

[eightball61]

Married a little over a year now. Things are great with us, except I realize that I'm spending a LOT of time on the internet, instead of with her.




I think if you take this qoute and read it over and over you will see your problem more clearly and try to change things. You see you have a problem but now its getting you to change a few things.

My question is whats keeping you on the net instead of your wife? Is it a job thing or are you meeting other people?

[CalistaClap]

If you feel that your marriage is stressed because of the internet, then get rid of the internet.

Have it disconnected for a few months, and see if things improve. It will also help you with your "addiction" to it.

You can always have your internet hooked back up, but if you push your wife to far, you can't always get her back.

[humbucker]

So, while I like being married, there's all this other baggage that seems to be coming along with it that worries me.

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Sounds like you prefer to sit on yer butt and waste valuable time.
The thing is, the computer is being used as the excuse for you not to deal with these "real life issues". It is easy, Life`s not.
People must always come first, remember why you married her, at least you do have !
Allow your self some time for the computer, BUT, give it a low percentage of the day.
Try and get some excercise, and tell your wife that you are doing it for her in a positive way.
She`ll think better of you and you`ll loose some of those pounds too!

[cherklatch]

THIS IS A MAJOR RED FLAG - FOR HER! Although, I give you credit for noticing there's a problem. If you both work and have little time together and you are spending that time on the internet I'd be real concerned if I were her. What's she doing while your chatting on the internet? If it's household chores, shame on you. Her name isn't on the dishes or the wash, etc. If that is the case, why don't you consider helping her do YOUR dirty laundry and when the chores are done spent time watching a movie, or going for a drive, or joining a health club together. For God sakes, this is your honeymoon period - GET OFF THE FRIGGIN COMPUTER OR SHE IS GOING TO START RESENTING YOU REAL FAST. You're heading for trouble son.

[SimplyMe]

My husband spends a lot of time on the computer. He likes to fix things. He's a technology junkie. We have 3 computers so he has lots to play with. I can spend as much time as I want on the computer too but after a while, I get bored. I can't spend more than an hour sitting at the computer. I need to get up, I need to move, I need to get active. I like to be with peole, be with my kids. During week-ends, my husband will eat breakfast and lunch at the computer and spend very little time doing something else. If he's not at the computer... he's in the bathroom, simple as that. He works in computers all week. When he gets home it takes on average 10 minutes for him to sit in front of one of our computers. I know, I timed him. Even if dinner's on the table, he will nonetheless fiddle with the computer a few minutes. Sad isn't it?

KissingKerie, find a way to spend more time with your wife. It's vital.