Tips for not giving in & going back

[CalistaClap]

For background info, please read my thread under the couples category called "anyone out there made it though cheating".

I need advice. I love my b/f so SO much. I honestly had thought he was the one! There is no one else out there that I want to even consider being with but him. But he has crossed the line one to many times. I gave him a second chance and he betrayed me again.

He wants another chance. I want to give it to him, but realize that I can't. How do I stay strong, even though it's not what I want? This is the most difficult thing that I am going to have to do.

Advise please. :confused:

[babydoll]

I'm assuming you don't have any children with this guy, you haven't mentioned any. I was in a situation just like yours, believe me, going back is not a good thing to do. The harm has been done, he's crossed the line too many times. When ever you think about giving in, just think about all the crappy things he's done in the past. You'll only get hurt more in the end, the longer it is till the end the worse it will hurt. Hang in there girl, I know it sucks, but it WILL get easier.

The hardest part of moving foreward is not looking back. ;)

[eightball61]

The thing that is making this so hard is the fact you still have the image you can'y go one without him...This kind of reminds me of Littlelostsoul's thread...You want to be with him but deep down you know thats not right after all that happened and you are having a hard time to move on.

I don't see any reason in giving tip Calista because the power actually comes within you. IF you want something bably then you go for it but when you know when danger lies ahead you have to trick your mind not to go that direction.

This case i really up to you and how you take the course. His lies and cheating brought everything back where it will be hard to trust him again and/or get the relationship back to where it once was. Damage can be repaired to a certain extent but in cases like this and even trying it over and him breaking that promise again has made it too difficult.

I wish I had some better words to share here but its what is within your thoughts.

[Rich]

You feel that he's the right one for you, but obviously he doesn't feel quite the same way about you.

For a relationship to work both parties need to be working together with the same feelings, commitments and goals. Right now you're working alone.

Keep that in mind when you think about giving in. You're more committed to this relationship than he is and that won't change.

Respect is very important and he's not respecting you by cheating. And then by doing it again. Respect is a core ingredient in having an awesome relationship and it's missing from him towards you.

Moving on will be hard but not as hard as moving on later with a lot more baggage. Stay strong.

Rich