I need help...

[shadow098098]

My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly 2 years. And we have had our little problems before, but this time there is just nothing that I know of that I can do. It all started out with her mom telling her that she had a dream that my girlfriend was wanting to break up with me, but afraid to hurt my feelings. So then that got her thinking about it. I of course gave her time and offered her what advice I could on the situation. Then the next night she finally figured it out that she does love me and wants to be with me. Then her stepfather calls her and says that he can't even believe that he told her anything like that and that he knew she wouldn't be able to go through with it. To be honest I really don't think her parents even ever liked me, but they always told her that they don't care who she is with as long as they make her happy. Then me and my girlfriend decided that we would continue to date as normal. The next day however when she got home from her father's house, her mom told her that she couldn't see me anymore and that she never could until she got her life in proportion. But her mom won't even tell her what's so out of proportion with her life. Then she calls me in tears and explains everything to me. She tells me how her stepdad thinks I am using her and how much better she could do. The bad thing is this is all happening on the day where we have been together for 1 year and 11 months and 2 weeks from my 18th birthday. So now I can't even see her at all or we can never see each other again. Right now there's still a chance for us seeing each other and we have to be very discreet about calling each other. I love this woman with all my heart and it would kill me if I never saw her or held her in my arms again. PLEASE ANY ADVICE WOULD HELP!!!

[yourstruly]

wow this brings back memories. I remember back when my parents wanted me to break up with my boyfriend when I was 17. They felt we were getting way too serious at too young of an age. Plus they felt that I could do alot better than the guy I was dating. Looking back, I remember rebelling against them in the WORST possible way. Their strictness is probably what pushed me into marrying him when I was 19 instead of going to college like I planned. I DID go to college, but I never finished.

As a parent, I must say this: Her parents only want the best for her. That's admirable. If you get serious at a young age it can have a HUGE impact on her future as well as yours because you are most probably going to be more focused on being a couple than preparing yourself for life and its responsibilities. There are two things that one MUST have to cope in this world: An education and a job. And not just any job---a steady job that pays the bills and more. I'm sure her parents are just trying to get her to realize what's important right now---there's plenty of time for love later.

There's a good chance that the two of you CAN maintain a relationship. If you do it the right way, a way that is approved by her parents, since obviously they ARE still supporting her and they want to see her be successful in her life. Go talk to her parents. Tell them how much you care about her. The WORST thing you can do is sneak to see her behind their back. You need their SUPPORT, not their hatred.