imaginary relationship ghost

[jojo79]

Hello everyone, I do need help. I can't seem to feel love without panic or anxiety. It is overwhelming. I believe it is keeping me single becuase every time I imagine being in a relationship all I can feel is anxiety. I am trying a bunch of different things that are not working so far; the sedona method, holosync, and psychocybernitics. The anxiety is so strong it is panic, to where it almost feels hard to breathe like there is a huge wieght on my chest. I would really like to get this issue taken care of so I could start enjoying love. If these great self-help programs aren't working (that have worked for everything else) what else could I try.

[eightball61]

What is it that gets you these panic attacks? Is it the feeling of being overwelmed or excitement?

[Rich]

I believe that you're on the right path with the self help angle, just go a bit further.

Depending on your belief system, hypnosis might help. If you believe in having past lives and that sort of thing, then maybe your "inner" fear of relationships can be traced to something that might have happened to you in a previous life.

You'd be amazed at things that people have an inate fear of, or anxiety about in this present lifetime that comes as baggage from a previous life.

You might want to check out past life regression hypnotists and give it a shot. I'd be interested to know your results if you did go down that road. Let us know.

Rich

[CalistaClap]

Have you tried therapy? As in with a phyciatrist (spelling?)

Just a thought.

There must be something about it that you are scared of, do you have any idea what it is? Fear of getting hurt? Fear of being with the same person for the rest of your life? etc.

[Diablo]

About the only thing that will really work is the realization that a broken heart is not going to kill you. That and realizing that most relationships are temporary. Once you realize that, you don't feel quite as betrayed when one ends because you knew all along that it probably would. You also should work on depersonalizing rejection. It does hurt when a relationship ends, but even if it lasts, one of you will die on the other. If you learn depersonalization and how to put relationships and mental pain in propper prospective, then you might be able to hang with it. It does take longer than I seem to be making it out to here.

[icanhelp]

you need to just sit back relax and find out what it is about getting into a new relationship is making you anxious. then find out what it is you need t do to get over it.

[Pamelina]

Have you tried therapy? As in with a phyciatrist (spelling?)

Just a thought.

There must be something about it that you are scared of, do you have any idea what it is? Fear of getting hurt? Fear of being with the same person for the rest of your life? etc.

I agree, it sounds intense for you and like too much to try and handle without good help.

Psychiatrist, lol, is the spelling, Calista--and I only know that from the repetition of psych classes!