Once a liar always a liar?

[thinking]

I need some advice.

I was seeing someone for about 9 months, great guy so I thought. I started having some 'bad feelings' about him and started feeling that he was lying to me. he always denied it.

One day I broke into his email account. Turns out that he was in another relationship, I was the other woman. I should have known as I was only supposed to call him at certain times, never went to his house (although he did invite me). I cut off ties immediately and was very hurt.

6 months later he contacted me on a dating website. He apologized, and fessed up to everything. Not that he really had a choice, but he didn't have to message me in the first place. I agreed to let me him come over to talk about things. We have been seeing eachother for the past 2 months again. Everything has been great, I've been to his house, I go over all the time. Call him whenever I want. ect ect.

This past Friday he cancelled a date with me. he said that he had to work, which turned out to be a lie, and I knew from the minute it came out of his mouth. I told him that Saturday that I knew he lied ect ect and wanted to know why. he again, fessed up to it. he told me that since it was his birthday on Sunday that his friends wanted to take him out to the bar, and he thought that I would be upset about it. I wouldn't have been upset at all, and I told him that. What upsets me is that he lied about it, which makes me think he has more to hide. he told me that he's not seeing anyone else, and that he hopes I will still see him again.

Is this history repeating itself? Should I bother getting further involved with this guy? I have never had a problem turning away from liars and cheats before, but for some reason something makes me want to keep him. Does anyone know why?

Any advice on this would be really appreciated,

thanks

[yourstruly]

but for some reason something makes me want to keep him.

you probably feel this way because you really care about him. If you think about it, you can probably admit to not feeling as strong about the guys that were liars and cheats that you WERE able to walk away from. Sometimes people just have a bigger effect on our heart and we try harder.

lying is a HUGE trust issue to overcome. Especially since he just did it to you AGAIN. Once can be forgiven, but a 2nd time, hmmmmm, I'm not so sure about that. However, it's really up to you, considering he didn't break the date with you to see another woman, it was to go out with his buddies. But still, a lie is a lie no matter what it's about. If he thought you'd be mad about THAT, there's no telling WHAT he's gonna lie about next.

Hard situation.

You have to do what's in your heart. Sit down and talk to him about the lying. Tell him that there is NOTHING that is worth lying about. I tell the same thing to my 14 yr old son. I told him that even if one day (god forbid) that he has to call me from jail, there's no reason to lie to me about why. Lying comes back to ya tenfold.