lack of drive....

[johnlew]

Ok,
When me and my fiance was dating we seemed we couldnt get enough of each other. Was always together and making love and everything. I even talked to her once and told her that I had a very high drive and liked having it alot. She agreed and said she did too. Well she is now pregnant and we are living together but we have maybe a couple times a week is all. Me this isnt enough. I have tried talking to her and explaining that I liked making love to her and enjoyed that intimacy. She says she just isnt into it much right now. But yet when we were dating she was. And talked about it all the time now nothing hardly. So is this just a spell or what? I love her very much and wouldnt give up on our relationship because of but however is a big part of it. Any ideas??????

[nottavictim]

John,
Like you said your woman is pregnant...Does she feel ugly because her body is changing?...Her hormones could be taking her for a ride...she may just be burnt out or feeling kind of sick. Pressing a woman for is a huge turn off for one...and a pregnant woman, good luck. Ask her what you can do for her to make her feel more comfortable or help take some of the load of her back by not only helping her with day to day tasks...but by doing the majority of the tasks. Your woman is pregnant and she wants to be pampered and by all means she deserves it. This isn't a sure way of getting out of her but you can do it because you LOVE her.

[Melissa]

well she's pregnant. her hormones are most likely all out of wack. be patient. being pregnant is probably not too comfortable.

[Rich]

Women go through a lot of changes during pregnancy and most of it they can’t control. What you’re facing is what all couples face. A lot of what I try to impart to younger couples is that if your relationship is mostly physical and that’s all that you have, then it will not work because the physicality always lessens over time and with pregnancy. A couple has to have a deeper connection to each other, other then just a ual one.

When people are dating there’s the anticipation of seeing each other after some time apart (a day to multiple days) and there’s that desire. When people are together 7x24 that anticipation goes away unless you try to keep it up somehow by planning special trips away, dates or something like that.

Also, after two people are married or decide to have a child, the pregnancy lessens the ual contact. True that some women get hornier during pregnancy, but there comes a time when body changes make uncomfortable and when there’s morning sickness that also kills any chance for your woman wanting . Some morning sickness can last for weeks. My ex wife had severe morning sickness that lasted and she had to actually have a IV hooked to her arm to give her fluids because she was dehydrated. It last well over a month and she was sick as a dog. Have you ever gone out fishing and gotten seasick? Imagine feeling like that 7x24. Think that you’d be wanting to have feeling that way? Well, you’re a man and there’s never a bad time for a blow job, right? LOL. JUST KIDDING.

Then after the baby is born the doctors recommend not having for six weeks or so to let the woman heal. Not that you would be having that much anyway because you’re both tired from getting up in the middle of the night to feed and change the baby and going to work.

The point to all of this is that if young people would be aware of this ual part to getting married and the real life affects of working, bills and children, then maybe more of them will refrain from getting married with just a physical bond to each other and nothing more deeper.

You need to look at your partner and see if you care for her more deeply than just a ual partner. Hopefully you two have more in common and are friends that enjoy each other’s company and do things together.

Say goodbye to the life that you had as you’ll probably never see it like that again. Once you have a child, or multiple children, it’s so hard to get back to as if it was just you two. Maybe when your kids go to college and are out of the house for good you can get back to the way that it was. That is if both of your bodies can still do what it did 15 or 20 years ago.

Welcome to reality. Oops, there goes gravity. J