help

[pscl]

Not sure if this is the right forum but I have screwed up, I have been seeing this girl at work, she makes me so happy, unfortunatley she has a long term partner that she is not happy with but also has a baby so she wants the security, the other day she called me to tell me she was pregnant, I was shocked not knowing what to say, she called back later and said dont worry she did the maths and it cant be mine, this didnt really bother me as my main concern was for her wellbeing, well on monday she went home sick from work without telling me why or anything she ignored all my calls and attempts to contact her, this i found very distressing so i sent her a message telling her she was being very unfair, i got a nast reply telling me I had no idea what she was going through, i replied I know as she wont tell me, next I get a message telling me she is going for a termination the next day, well i felt like a pig. since then I have organised to take some leave and go away for a few weeks as its too painful not being able to share things with her. I wrote her an email apolagising for my selfishnous.
my question is what should I do next go on my trip and ignore her and try and forget her or go and make limitied contact. I would be happy to live the rest of my life with her but how do I find out if she will want the same?

[tecnochick]

personally i think she used you and your kindness. And you did nothing wrong in writing to her and telling her how you feel. I think that you should not talk to her until she is ready to talk to you. She is unstable in her life and you don't need that in yours, take you vacation and foget about her for the time being hope this helps

tecnochick

[Butterfly]

I'm a girl so i'll tell u exactly what shes thinking of. plus ive been in a lovely and beautifully perfect relationship with my boyfriend for approx 6 years so trust me on this. When a girl says "no leave me alone" it actually means "give me as much attention as possible". And thats a few of the twisted meanings that us girls have. now she said that "u dont understand what im going through", thats true, u'll never understand cuz being in her shoes would be very difficult. the poor thing is raising a baby with someone she doesnt love, and is gonna have an abortion soon. instead of blaming her for things or thinking about yourself, think about her and put her wellbeing first. that what lovers do. if u honestly want to be with her and would be man enough to not stop at anything to acheive that then the good for you. now go cancel that holiday and make the next holiday with her ;O) she needs a break too you know. go to her and support her with her whatever she needs. be there for her. unlike her other man. tell her to leave him for u and that ull be faithful and love her (mean it). tell her u'll take care of her and her baby (she'll love the fact that ur willing to take responsibility). i guess i gave u a clue about what track u should be heading on so goodluck and do post a note letting me know what happens. if u get stuck at something, again post ur question here and my boyfriend and i will help as much as possible.
1)support her.
2)care for her.
3)be there for her.
4)show her u love her.
5)dont burst in flames if ur first attemp fails...there are no limit at attemps, its ur decision.
take care and good luck
caio

[Uncopyrightable]

RUN


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Neighbors aren’t.


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