cherklatch
01-07-2005, 12:56 PM
Hi everybody. I just joined. My life is in the toilet. I'm an old fart (51) and got married for the second time, after a 20 year hiatus last New Years Eve. Well, our first anniversary was a few days ago and I spent it alone and miserable while he was out with his friends. He didn't come home until 2 in the afternoon the NEXT DAY. We have been having problems since we said "I do" and I don't know what happened. It's not like I rushed into this. I knew him for 4 years before we got married and there were no red flags. He needs major help with anger management as well as other issues. He keeps saying I'm sorry and wants to come home - I kicked him out after the anniversary thing - he lives in MY HOUSE. He's 57 and has been divorced for 20 years too. Just went I think he can't get any worse, he sinks to a completely new low. I know that I have to stay away from him and maybe that will force him to realize his mental problems and get help. That's the only thing that can salvage this marriage. BUT, I am such a softie and keep taking his phone calls or letting him come to visit for supper. No sooner does he think he's got me under his control again and BAM it's back to the same of bullshit. I DON'T WANT TO LIVE LIKE THIS ANYMORE. I WISH I NO LONGER LOVED HIM. THIS WOULD BE SO MUCH EASIER FOR ME. SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME. i wish there was a face that shows me crying my eyes out. Thanks for listening.