im stressing out, help!

[laybac]

hello all. this is my first post, so try and follow along. im a 30 yr old male that is in a 2 yr relationship with a 26 yr old woman. ive never been married. heres my deal: my girlfriend is crazy in my eyes, heres why...

we started dating 2 yrs ago. everything was fine till 4 month after we started dating. i busted her snooping on my pc. she looked at all my emails, yahoo friends, etc... now that kinda bothered me. it was like a private thing. but i forgave her and no big deal, i dont have anything to hide. since that problem, i have always kept it in the back in my head. its been 2 yrs now and she accuses me of cheating on her, talking to girls, phone calls, etc... at least twice a month, if not more. from day one till present she still snoops on all my stuff. cell phone, work, etc... i couldnt be more serious when i tell u i have NOT cheated on her, nor am i "talking" to any girl.

she was married for like 6 months before i met her. according to her, her ex hubby was a total looser. he left her at home all the time to go to the bars and get drunk and so on. she ended up devorcing him do to all his crap and she feels like she cant trust anyone. so i feel that she still carries that on me. she has also openly admited that she has relationship issues. i cant take all the accusing from her that is NOT true! i get it ALL the time. im at the point of leaving, giving up, or whatever. heres the kicker: we found out she is pregnant a while back, which im happy about. dont get me wrong i love her more than anything, but im totally fed up. and not to mention im goin to be a dad.

im sick and tired of her "making" things up. i feel like im spinning wheels, fighting a battle that cannot be won. whats her deal???!!!

any advice??? thanks.

[laybac]

no comments on this yet???

[smackie9]

My guess is she's looking to see if you are open about everything and every aspect of your life. Including your emails, etc. Show her that you are hiding nothing from her. She maybe feeling insecure about things. It's not really a crime the way she's feeling, but maybe it's time to get things out in the open here. Tell her how offended you are about the emails and stuff. Find out what's going on in that head of her's. Communication is the only thing that keeps a relationship from falling off the tracks.

[Rich]

Here's my comment. Why are you still with her? If you've given her no reason to not trust you and she can't, or ever will trust you, then you have two options.

Option one is to stay and to accept her mistrust of you and all the fights that will come about because of that.

Option two is to leave her and move one.

Stop trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. If the relationship sucks, then get the hell out. No one has a gun to your head making you stay.

[smackie9]

Instead of throwing everything out the window, why not try couples conselling. A child is in volved here too. It's worth it to get professional help. Plus mom-to-be hormones doesn't help the situation either.