I keep remembering her past

[bautino95]

I'll try to keep this short. way back in high school(over 10 yrs ago) my girlfriend sleep with my bestfriend. (have not talk to him since) so we broke up. It then became a off and on thing were we would get back togather but then would brake up again because I could not get over the fact that she did that to me. Anyways every time we broke up its seemd that she sleep with another guy that I know.( we live in a small town.) So the lsat time we got togather we both said this would be the last try. And now we have been togather solid for 10 yrs. I know I love her, But it seems that I'm always getting reminded of one of the other guys that she has sleep with. so then I get all wierd and she can tell that something is wrong and we have to have a big OLD descusion about it that makes her feel bad. I dont Know what to do. I Know its All in the past But I just always get reminded of it. ether because of a t.v. show were someone cheats, or one of our friends say one of though other guys name. AM I CRAZY? thanks

[eightball61]

Your feelings are normal and they probably won't go away. The only way to get your mind fresh is to start fresh with someone new. What she did is in the past but your mind will always remember. You can forgive but you will never forget. The only thing that you can do is to try to suck it up. Remember, you got back with and with that meaning you gave her another chance. As far as you know she hasn't messed up in the last 10 years so instead of punishing her for the past you need to give her the benefit-of-a-doubt because you did give her a chance.

[Jolie84]

wow
this kind of sounds like what im going through
i met my b/f bak in sept 2004 and he was seeing someone and so was i and we got together, i dumped the guy i was seeing and went with him it took my b/f a while to dump his ex and he finally did it but his ex keep calling and ringing etc.

I feel as tho im not doing a good job as a g/f i feel the ex did a better job and got the BEST of him cause he was younger bak then.
I know everything they did he's told me and i cant seem to forget all that be cause im hurt it wasnt me i didnt get the good in him she did! :o

For a couple of months there i couldnt get the 2 out of my mind then one day my b/f said 'shes gone shes not in my life or our lives anymore' and that i am way more better then her.

but things remind me of her, they were in cadets together so anything on tv or in the paper i remember
or any other girl he knows is either in cadets and would know of his ex. Even the uni he goes to cause thats where he lost his 'virginity to her'
Ive seen her twice in the shops one my b/f was with me and we stopped to talk to her but i didnt say a thing!

so you can see it happens i try to fight it out withmyself believing that im better then her and look who got him ..ME.
I am the one who gets to see him kiss him talk to him its me and i feel very lucky and how it all happened in the beginning i couldnt have been more lucky!

You look back and go woah! it was all tough and you went through a lot but in the end your with them and its the moment that is NOW that matters not what was done and said in the past u dont go backwards in life u move forwords.

hope it helps :)