Why does it have to be so hard?

[Duckie]

Why does it have to be so hard to ask a guy out? I work at a hospital, and my mom introduced me to a really nice guy. (I know everyone says you shouldnt date anyone you work with, but its a big hospital and we work in totally separate areas) We talk all the time, and everyone says they think he really likes me, but he's 8 years older than I am. Everyone keeps telling me that age doesnt matter. I dont have a problem with the age difference, but i'm not sure if he does or not. The problem is, I can talk to him and hold endless conversations, but I cant get myself to ask him out. I'm not sure how to do it, or what to say! Please help! I'm open to any suggestions you can give.

[eightball61]

It does seem like you have a true connection with this guy and you shouldn't lose out. I will say that I have always been against work relationships but if you both work in totally different areas then maybe give it a try. The only way though is if one of you break through to ask. If it seems he won't then you will need to take that push.

[Duckie]

The only way though is if one of you break through to ask.

How can I break through to ask though? I dont know how to approach the situation.

[CalistaClap]

Does he seem to be interested in you too?

You could always just suggest that you do something together that weekend, or invite him to some function that your attending. That way your not necissarily saying "do you want to go on a date" but you are still asking him to spend more time with you outside of work.

If he does say no, then it won't completely make it awkward when you see each other.

Dont be too shy about it. Just go for it. Ever hear the saying "No guts, no glory"?

[eightball61]

Dont be too shy about it. Just go for it. Ever hear the saying "No guts, no glory"?

Thats how you ask Duckie..... :)

Its just the process of getting enough guts and going for what you want. No one says it will be easy for you but it can be done and if its not done then you lose out.

[meeka]

Why does it have to be so hard to ask a guy out?
The more that you think about it the more of an ordeal it can become! unfortunately this can also result in you feeling more pressured about "doing the deed!" LOL! so why don't you try to make things easier for yourself and instead of jumping in head first and asking him out, why don't you ask him to meet you for a coffee break? or share a lunchtime together! at least that's a start! Then you can build up to asking him out when you're more comfortable with the situation! You never know! he could ask you out before you get to ask him out! :) Good luck!

[Duckie]

Thank you guys for all of the good ideas. I'm taking them all into concideration, and i'm still open for more ideas and help if anyone has anything to say! Much appreciated!