advice needed

[angelbuff6]

i began chatting to a squaddie while he was out in iraq and we talked for 4 months on msn.
He then came home and began phoning me every night and then we decided to meet and it was an instant attraction.
since then i have seen him every weekend and have slept together.
Nothing has been said if we are seeing each other but he still phones or texts most nites but i dont know how to ask him whats going on between us, i no i have a lot of feelings for him,but have been with a squaddie before and been burnt really badly.
Any advice would really help me.

[eightball61]

Most of these men only see women very rarely. Sleeping with him won't get him any closer to you if this is all he wants from you. Now is the time to be open and honest so you can see what he really wants. You should express yourself to him on what you want then see what he wants. I say this is the time because the worse thing you want is to be used.

[kate2000]

I just got married to a an army guy and when we first started talking it was purely long distance and we did sleep together the first night we met in person. After spending a weekend together, of course he had to go back home so i was worried that i had just had a one night stand or that i was in a friends with benifits situation. So I just called him up and stait up asked what was going on with us and what kind of a relationship he wanted to have with me. I'm pretty open minded but i hate not haveing a defined relationship. <<actually thats what i said to him.

Anyway, he was caught a little off gaurd but he said that he was asking himself the same questions and that he was really intrested in me for more then a one night thing or friends with benifits thing and he said he's not into that at all. Hes a one woman kind of guy.

So I took a chance and it cleared everything up. I felt alot better and 8 months later we were married.

So just go for it and ask him. Its always better to know then to have those feeling of uncertainty. Thats what i think anyway!

Good luck!