What could be wrong!?

[mikev]

Hi there, i need some help, i have been going out with my girlfriend for nine months now and i love here more than ever. But recently i got the sense that she has changed, she doesnt pay me the attention she used to, she doesnt talk as much as she used to, when i tell her i love her she says it in a different way than she used to. she hasnt offered or asked for a kiss or cuddle in ages. this really worries me because im planning to propose to her next month.

Does anyone know what could be wrong ive asked her and she insists that nothing is wrong. Also her labido has been a bit low lately could this have something to do with it?

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

[Rich]

Typically what you're experiencing isn't felt until like the 7th year of a marriage, not from just dating.

If your gut is telling you that something has changed, then I'd trust it. Tell her that you're not stupid and that you know something has changed. Ask her to be totally honest and you'll talk about whatever it is maturely.

I wouldn't propose yet though.

[mikev]

Thanks for the advice

[Howard]

I'd say try and talk with her on a one to one basis.Maybe you could figure out what went wrong with her and try to patch things up with your girlfriend.

[mikev]

Its ok i already have i had a long with her and she said that it was college and money porblems, she said she didnt want to tell me because thought she would sound stupid.

thanks for all your posts

[smackie9]

See, it goes to show you that good communication keeps a relationship strong. Making assumptions will only make things worse.

[mikev]

True, i guess i was just panicing. shes agreed that she will tell me any problems that she has... as my nan says "a problems shared is a problem havled"

[smackie9]

Nice!:) :) :) :)

[Howard]

Its ok i already have i had a long with her and she said that it was college and money porblems, she said she didnt want to tell me because thought she would sound stupid.

thanks for all your posts


What's the money problem you're having?:confused:

[mikev]

well we are both in college and we get this thing called EMA and the problem is we only get 30 quid a week and thats of they decide to pay us.

Im quiting to get a job and earn more money so we can go out a bit more. And then we can move in together.:D

[smackie9]

Cool:) :) :) :)

[Howard]

well we are both in college and we get this thing called EMA and the problem is we only get 30 quid a week and thats of they decide to pay us.

Im quiting to get a job and earn more money so we can go out a bit more. And then we can move in together.:D


Well Good luck to you Mike.:)

[mikev]

thanks :D :D :D

[Howard]

thanks :D :D :D



You're Welcome;)

[Spooky]

I'm sorry, I have to give my point of view.

It just acts like she's not interested anymore. :( But she's being totally vague about. Do me a favour and ask her if she's interested in you anymore. See what her reply is.

I don't want to hurt you or scare you, but some girls are likely to not be intimate with their spouses. Its not the lack of libido. Its the lack of interest.

I could be totally wrong, but I see this kind of behaviour in some of the women I sometimes associate with.

[mikev]

I thought the exact same thing, i asked her and she said it in the way she would have said it before this problem she assures me that she still loves me and i believe her, and her labido has come back (with a vengence:D ) thanks anyway:) Im just glad everthing is back to normal and i can stop being such a worry ass.