help

[justme]

I have been dating a guy for almost 4 years and we do live together. He is a really nice guy but i don't see myself, or him for that matter, being as happy as we could be. Lately i have been thinking that we would make better friends then lovers. I just really don't see him that way, maybe i never really did i'm not sure. I think i would make a better friend to anyone then i would make a girlfriend. I have decided to go back to school and at this time i would rather just concentrate on that. I really like him but i think it is more in a friend kind of way. I don't want to hurt him but at this point it is probably unavoidabable. I don't know what to do but i feel like the longer i let it go on the more of his time i am wasting. I'm not worried about myself but i am really worried about hurting him. In a way i kind of feel selfish because right now i really don't want to share myself with anyone besides myself :(

[eightball61]

You do need to be single for sometime right now. The longer you wait though the longer its unfair to him. Its best you just tell him to get it out of the way. I can't garentee a friendship after this but at least you got what you wanted for the time being.

It is hard and breakups are not made to be easy. You know whats right and I beleive you have the right mindset to do it. If you wanted more then I would see it but you need out and space.

Relationships are the building process to the future. You dont see him in that kind of future so you need to pick someone else.