General Questions...

[Duckie]

I have just some general questions. Mostly just for the guys, but if the ladies out there have some experience behind some of my questions, then please share! I know all guys arent the same, but just give your opinion and answers! I dont mean the kind of guys that just walk up to a girl w/ some cheesy pick up line either...not the fresh prince (aka will smith) kind of guy...a general, caring sort of guy...

Do guys always go out of their way to see the girl they like?
Would a guy normally just go talk to a girl, or does he have to try to find an excuse to go over there by her?
For a more shy kind of guy,...would he show his emotions for a girl if he likes her, or would he try to hide them when people are around?
Is it hard for a guy to try to ask a girl out if he really likes her?
Do guys like it when girls ask them out?
A girl likes a guy, but doesnt know if he likes her or not. Would it be better if the girl invites him to have coffee w/ her and her friend, or just ask him out for coffee alone?

Please just give your opinions and how you feel about these questions! It would help out tons! Thanks!

[eightball61]

These questions are hard to speak on the general public for males because everyone of them challenges these questions in many ways. Relationships are a mystery in many ways on how they work out. As times change though more and more females are becoming more open to ask man out while more men are becoming shyier. As for me if I like someone I will go for it because I dont want to lose out on an opportunity. I show my emotions in many ways most guys dont but thats because we are all different.

[msthang]

Guys love it when girls ask them out. I have heard time and time again from guys that so much pressure is put on them to approach the girl. Guys really do appreciate the effort. Believe it or not, it is very difficult for them at times to ask a girl out. Who likes the risk of rejection? Besides, how are you going to know if he really likes you or not if you don't ask him out. Rejection is so much better than to go around in life and ask ,What if? Keep in mind, if you ask a guy out on "a date" it is polite to pay. I hear guys complain about that as well.
About whether or not to go out as a group...IT depends. Either way is fine. However, if you are just getting to know him, there might be some awkward silent moments.A group might help with that.
If a guy is still very young, he might make excuses to come see you and talk. As far as hiding emotions? I don't know. Everyone is different.
I have asked several guys out. I have faced acceptance and rejection. However, the ones that accepted admitted to me that they had not planned on asking me out due to the fact that they were shy. However, I had a great time with some of those guys. One (that I asked out) I have been with for 6 months now. So you never know. I did ask them on dates alone (no friends).
Good luck to you!

[Rich]

~Everyone likes to be asked out.
~Everyone has issues and self doubt
~Most people are shy
~If you really like and enjoy something, you'll do what it takes to experience those feelings.
~Life is hard if you make it hard.

When it comes to relationships, what you need to keep in mind is that we're all more alike inside then we are different.

We all experience the same types of feelings at various times.

What you need to keep in mind when you're out looking for a partner is that they're just like you. Just be yourself because that who you're going to be in the relationship. Be honest. Don't be afraid to approach anyone and talk. Just say hi. It's not about pick up lines as it's more about public speaking and making conversation.

If you're afraid to approach someone, always think to yourself, what's the worse thing that can happen to me if she blows me off. Will you die? Will the world end? Will my life totally change for the worse? The answers of course are, NO! So really, what's the big deal? The answer is that there's no big deal.

You're not meant to go out with everyone and everyone is not meant to go out with you. You're going to strike out more often then not when approaching someone. A hall of fame baseball player will strike or make out 7 out of 10 times.

Don't be afraid. Just go up and say hi, my name is so and so. If they're interested they'll talk back, if not you'll get the hint. No great shakes either way, it's just another day in the life.

Here's a hint for you. Most drop dead gorgeous girls are looking to meet someone, so approach them first. Most guys when they see a great looking girl are intimidated and most often think that she's taken. But most often she's available. Think about it. If most guys are afraid to approach or think that the girl is taken, then they don't approach. If no guys approach, then how's the girl to meet anyone? Plus, don't you often see a great looking girl with a jerk looking guy and you ask yourself why that is? It's because he had to balls to ask her out when no one else would and she wants a relationship just like everyone else does.

Also, and maybe this is just me, but i'd rather shoot for the stars and see what happens. At worst I get shot down by a hot babe. At best, I have a hot babe for a girlfriend. It's all how you approach life.

Good luck

Rich

[Rich]

I calls 'em as I sees 'em, hecticheart. lol