am i good enough?

[Jolie84]

This morning my b/f had to be at work at 7 so the alarm was set at 630 we woke up but i went bak to sleep thinking my b/f would get up i reached ova and pushed the button stop instead of the button that makes the alarm go off again in a few mins. We woke up at 730 and my b/f was rushing around angry that he was late etc. I lay in bed thinking if i had of just stayed awake and told him to get up he wouldnt have been late!
But then i thought about how i am and how i treat my b/f.
I whinge i act like a baby, i get angry when he wants to do what he wants ,i want attention ALL the time, i get sad when he has to leave,i do things that make him angry.
I know that relationships arnt perfect and that but i just want to do the RIGHT things, im 22 and i dont act it i find everything difficult. I want my b/f to look at me and go 'gee im glad im with her' instead of thinking 'why' and i know he does.
I want to be good for him and do the right things for him and me. not cause arguments, not try to get attention just be calm happy and lovable.

[NikkiTrickie]

You seem to know what the problem is with you, so try to change a little bit. I would ask him if he still finds your relationship valuable and if maybe he asks why you are asking tell how you feel. Chances are he will tell you something you want to hear or something you don't.

[Howard]

I think you should both sit down and let each other know you both feel about the relationship so far.How long you 2 been dating? :confused:

[Jolie84]

been dating for 20 months.

He wont talk i sit down and tell him and he thinks nothing is wrong and he doesnt want to talk about it cause 'everything is ok'

I just want him to know and everyone else that i make mistakes and i dont mean too and feel ashamed sometimes when he sees my mistakes. eg Pressing the wrong button on the alarm.

I try to change, everyday i be happy and lovable and fun and he's too tired. I try to make things fun and talk about ahppy things but he just wants to sleep when he gets home frm work when he visits me.

EVERYTHING that is happening now, like he never was like this and stupidly ive read over old chats with his ex and it seemed ti was neve rlike this with her.

I feels as tho its me that causes his tiredness and he just wants a break not breka but days on his own.
And i feel guilty for making him fele like that cause he thinks im too much to handle. :confused:

[Rich]

Is the alarm on your side of the bed? If it is, then move it to his side if he's the one that has to get up first. You're not his god damn mother! If he has a job to get up for, then it's his responsibility to get the hell up. Don't let him blame you for his laziness.

It's called responsibility. You shouldn't have to be his alarm clock or feel guilty if you press the wrong button. We all do things wrong in the morning as we're just waking up.

If he's going to cop an attitude if you don't get him up, then let him get up himself.

Relationships are give and take. If you're giving and receiving 50/50, then all is right. If you're constantly receiving more than you're giving, or vice versa, then your relationship is screwed up.