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DFA
07-20-2006, 07:35 PM
Don't really know where to start telling this story, so I'll just go from the beginning:

Almost 4 months ago, I'm sure I met the girl that is to become the love of my life, it was an instant click, we talked, online and over the phone for hours on end. 3 months went by in the blink of an eye, and we hadn't seen each other in person (even though she lives about .6 miles from my house) =|, by this point of the relationship she was very shy about seeing me, that maybe things would change between us if I didn't like her or something like that, but things went by, just as great as they had gone before..

...Until last friday: for some reason, her mother decided to cut off her house phone, this, of course, made us both very sad, since we can only talk to each other either by SMS, or MSN, I call her and hear her voice every morning to wake her up, and I call almost every night to hear her voice last thing before I go to bed.
Thing is, we've both been gradually sadder over the course of the week, and it greatly reflects on our conversations, I do my best to cheer her up, even though my heart is breaking on the inside, but our conversations keep shifting back to a sad mood.

Last night she told me that there was a great deal of things she wanted to tell me, but she just can't, says she's afraid to, and if she can't speak to me with no fears, why are we together? I keep telling her that she can trust me, that no matter how bad it is she has to tell me I will support her and help her solve any problems she might have.

She keeps saying that she's really sad, to which I reply by asking if she wants to get together and do something, but then she says she just wants to be alone. All I want to do is make her happy.

This is all very recent, so I think I still have a chance to save my relationship. How is it that can make her actually feel like she can tell me about anything that goes on in her life? I need to find a way to do so, that doesnt consist in telling her anything so direct.

Any advice? It will be greatly appreciated

DFA
07-20-2006, 10:11 PM
I just got off the phone with her, we talked and laughed for a good bit, talked about out future family (we always did since very early in the relationship), but inevitably our conversation shifted towards sadness again, she says it's best to leave things until here.
She says she had something really important to tell me, and for some reason was afraid to do so, and that it wasn't right.
Is there any way to show myself more open to her? My mom was diagnosed with some lumps on her ovaries a month ago, and recently got checked with a second doctor, who confirmed the lumps were harmless, I told her a few days ago, because I didn't want to worry her, but it was for the worst, she complains about why can't I trust her, why didn't I tell her about it. I opened up and it only made things worse... I can't even talk to her because she has no phone (she called me from her neighbor's house).

SOS!