I'm in love with a mama's boy!

[SadGirl25]

Hi all!

I feel like I'm in love with the wrong man. I wish I can turn off my feelings. I love him but I'm unhappy and the thought of breaking up with him makes me worst.
You know the phrase of "what you don't know won't hurt"? Well ITS TRUE! I wish I didn't know things about him and his family like I know now. I feel betrayed, confused, too hurt. And what makes it worst I have a baby with him.
I just found out that he tells his mom everything even our problems. I'm a woman that likes to handle personal problems without involving a third person. That just makes it worst. I also found out that his mother has talked behind my back, she'll put negative things in his head so we would argue, then he'll run back to his mom. This hurts so much because in my face she acts so nice.
This is so embarrasing for me, every time we argued he ran to his mom. Other men will go for a drive, or to a bestfriend, or to a freaking bar but nooooo not him. No wonder he mentioned his mom a lot in our conversations. He is a sweet guy but can be just as cruel. He calls her every single freaking day, sometimes 2 or 3 times. He would put an excuse to go with me shopping but his mom calls and he jumps. Or if we go somewhere he wants to bring her along. I can't stand this, enough is enough.
I thought it was kind of sweet at first that he'd worry about his mother, but it became too much for me to handle and then to find out the conversations behind my back. I feel like all the arguements we had wasn't really him talking but his mother.
Ask me where he is right now? HIS MOMS!!!!
I'm too freaking depressed to even do anything to calm myself down.

Has anyone of you guys been in this situation? What can I do? what should I do? I don't need this aggravation but how can I talk to a man that is brain washed by his mother? I don't deserve this I'm a great woman in every dept. He doesn't realize that his mother won't let him be a man. I once wanted so bad to be his wife but now I feel like I'll be marrying his mother too.
HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!

[Diablo]

The one thing to try that might work is putting your foot down about going to his mother about a problem with you. Jiminy cricket! I wouldn't go to anyone about a problem with a lady. These days you just can't let other people in your business. Hubby doesn't understand that. He's tied to her apron strings and unless you can get him to at least not go to her when you two fight; you have a problem. You can't just leave because of the baby. So here is what to try. At a good time, tell him that you would prefer that fights between you two stay between the two of you. How old is he? If he's relatively young, you have a chance. It isn't uncommon for momas boys to take a while to gain independence from their mothers. Some do, but they will still spend a lot of time with them. The next time he wants to bring her on a date, say, "Well, I want to go to the no-tell motel. Is she bi?" Oh, you wouldn't be serious, but the look on his face if you could say it with a staight face.... Also, your saying that even as a joke may get his mother to decline some invitations. Moreover, it would make the point that you want time with just him and yourself. You needn't exclude her from every evening out, but he should leave her at her house a good bit more than he does. If you want him cutting loose from those apron strings, the suitable bribe is the things he can't do with his mother.

[smackie9]

The only way to solve this is to move away...far away. Separating them is the only thing you can do. He won't be in her clutches anymore, and will be able to focus on your relationship. Sure he can talk to her on the phone..but in time that will fade too. Get packing!

[nemo]

my bestfriend dated a mama's boy, and the only way she became satisfied with the relationship was ending it. some people change, but don't count on it. tell him that the relationship you two have is between you and him, and going to his mother for every problem you two have is very disrespectful. he needs to be a man and handle his relationship. it seems that he has other priorities. talk calmly about it, and if he doesn't change you should really consider dropping him. i know you have a child with him, but do you really want to spend the rest of your life (or his mom's life) dealing with this. you will probably end up breaking up some time down the line which will make it even harder on the child. the problem doesn't lie with his mom, remember that it's him needing her for every problem he has with the relationship.