Two guys and I'm clueless!

[Luda]

I've been seeing this guy for two months and we get along really well. I like him a lot but more on a platonic level. I mean, he's a great guy but there's no passion on my behalf. I don't feel anything when we kiss and I don't know if I need to breakup with him because I'm not sure where I stand regarding me being his "girlfriend" or what.

I've also been crushing on this other guy and I think he likes me back. I guess my question is, do I need to "break up" with this sorta boyfriend and what should I do about the guy I'm lusting for?

I'd really appreciate any advice!

[eightball61]

First you need to figure what the other guy is and thats a boyfriend or not?

If you are not dating him then you have every right to venture out but let him know on your doings. Its better to keep up that way and less crushing in the long run.

The other thing is you feel nothing for him and having thoughts of others. What you need to do is figure what you want and go from there. If you are liking this new guy then you need to break off the other guy to figure out what you want.

This is all about you and what you want...Goodluck :D

[Luda]

Thanks for the advice, it helped a lot. :)

[eightball61]

no prob ;)

[CalistaClap]

Yea I agree. If you have feelings for someone else, and not for the guy who you are sort of seeing, then you need to be honest with him.

If you feel nothing for him then there is no point of dating him. Do it as soon as possible, because he could be feeling the total opposite and falling for you more and more as the days go on. The sooner you let him go, the less it will hurt him.

Even if you are not officially dating, you need to stop what you ARE doing. Kissing, etc. Then you can feel free to presure the new guy.

[Rich]

The heart doesn't lie. Drop the guy that you have no passion for and pursue the feelings that you have for the other guy.

Rich
www.awesomerelationships.com

[luneib]

You need to be honest with the guy you are seeing, break it off, tell him you feel that you should just be friends, that you are not ready for a bf/gf relationship, that you want to see others, instead of bringing up that other guy into the conversation (LOL). I just had to do this with one of the guys I'm seeing, told him it could only be a friendship thing. It's not that there isn't any chemistry, there is in my case, but the guy is sooooo overweight, I just can't get beyond that, and he does not seem to care. If I got serious with him, married him ever, I'd be worrying everyday that he was going to have a heart attack or something. Why do some guys just let themselves go like that? He is 285 lbs and only 5'6, ugh. I looked beyond his weight to see the real person inside, but it is so unhealthy for him not to care about how overweight he is. He said he is trying to lose it, he hasn't lost a lb yet, well, he goes to burger places, eats fries and stuff. It frustrates me to see him do this to his body. He is such a nice person.