Sea of Agony

[StarCrossdLover]

Help required please respond.
I have been in a 1 year relationship, and it ended very abruptly. I had no idea what happened, and its still been 3 weeks and I am lost. She says I was mean to her, and was cynical of her, and that she cried alot. This has happened before, but she seems more serious this time about the break up. She wont talk to me on the phone, and wont see me. I dont know what to do about this. A little advice would be great, and i'd love to hear anyones opinion.

[eightball61]

Sorry about the recent breakup. I will say though that these things are never meant to be easy. She said some things to you at the end that made you think and now its lingering in you head. I don't know how you relationship was but mine almost ended a while back because of being an ass.

Don't take her words as a slap in the face. Work on what needs to be done. If she sees though characteristics and you dont ten maybe you should think some about how you treated her. Be wise about this whole thing because this could help you out a lot.

We are also here to guide you but you need to start thinking of yourself and what needs to be fixxed then move to the next thing.

[StarCrossdLover]

You see the thing is, is that i contacter my shrink. She told me i was still bi-polar, and that i need to be remedicated. Since then ive been so much better, but i cant make her see that. I need advice on how to win her back...she claims she doesnt care about me but still asks what im doing and wonders with who and when...any advice for me please?

[eightball61]

I need advice on how to win her back...she claims she doesnt care about me but still asks what im doing and wonders with who and when...any advice for me please?


You can't win her back....It will be difficult to even try when she claims she doesn''t care for you. You can try and try but will only make matters worse. You want her to come back to you. You dont want to drive her away. If she needs space then you give. You may have to just except the fact it was never meant to be but only the future can tell. Soryy this is not what you wanted to hear but its the reality of things.

[CalistaClap]

Sometimes it takes something like this to happen for one to realize how badly they did treat their partner.

If you agree that you did, then it may be too late,a nd the bridge may already be burned. It's hard to face, but that's the way it may be.

Just take this as a lesson on how you need to treat the next one who comes along in order to keep her.

[Rich]

SCL...you have a tough road in front of you in regards to relationships. Being bi-polar makes it that way.

You're going to ALWAYS have to be on top of your meds and make sure that you take them. You're also going to have to find someone that will accept you as you are, which might be tough. Women will love the nice you, but the "other non-medicated you" will wear thin real quick. No one likes to be treated like crap no matter what. It might be tolerated for some time, but not a long time.

I wish you luck in your relationship life. Always take your meds and be aware of what you have and what might be being said when you've missed taking your meds. Bottom line is that how good of a relationship you can have will be mostly ALL ON YOU. You need to always be aware.

Rich