getting cut off

[Jolie84]

im finding when i start talking to someone or excited to tell somebody something they are cutting me off or changing the subject as soon as i say something or just completely ignoring me? :confused:

my parents dont do it, either my friends or boyfriend do they just say 'well anyway' or 'dunno' and move on and if im about to open my mouth they walk away :confused:

I try my best with the questions my friends ask and listen carefully and help them out as best i can but with me its like they just cant be bothered to say anything bak??

[CuteSubGuy]

Maybe you need to be little more assertive and make them listen to you, even if you've to scream to get their attention.Explain to them how that makes you feel by being ignored.

If they continue to ignore you, perhaps you should do the same thing to them and cut them off. I do think you need to be more assertive and let them know exactly how you feel.

[fixitchris]

people do love to talk about themselves, but when it comes to listening, noone wants todo it.

[Diablo]

They sound terribly self-obsorbed to me. At 22, most of the people you encounter will be that way. Another problem these days is that half the time you're trying to talk to someone about something, he or she will be stoned out of their gourdes. It gets a bit better with age, but not a lot.

[Howard]

Maybe they don't want to hear what you have to say cause It's probably that you repeat yourself too much but do try and be as assertive as you can with them.

[daterater]

Maybe you should do to them, what they do to you.

Just don't answer them or walk away.

Then you can see if they ask you about it.

[Howard]

So,What's been happening lately? :confused:

[coach]

It could be a number of things. When you say you are "telling them things", do you mean you are conveying information about yourself, or stating general issues of fact about the world in general?

If it's the latter, maybe they feel you are being too didactic, and so they want to discourage you. If you are giving advice when they haven't asked for any, that could be a problem. Or maybe you are stating the obvious, and they feel slightly insulted. If you are exaggerating things or being dramatic, then that could be off-putting. If you tend to concentrate a lot on yourself, or things that interest you at the expense of what other people find interesting, that could well be the problem.

Maybe they are just lacking in social skills and very tied up with themselves.

Perhaps it's the intensity of the way you approach them that is turning them off? Maybe you get very excited about things which they feel are mundane or just very ordinary?

Conversations usually have a theme, and topics often interconnect and link up - if you have been regularly "de-railing" - i.e. just completely switching away from the subject under discussion and bringing in your own stuff that has no logical or thematic connection to what others have been saying, you may have caused some frustration and perhaps you are now 'paying the price' for that"!

If the above might be relevant, I would suggest you try tuning in to whatever it is that they have been discussing or saying, and then try to link whatever it is that you want to say with the last topic. If that's not possible, try at least acknowledging what they have just said and make some comment that might act as a "bridge" for switching to whatever it is that you want to say. Or, if you can't do that, try: "I know this is not relevant but ......."

When you have given an opinion, either your own or one that you have re-stated, finish off with something like: "well ... what do you think?" ... or "how do you feel about that?".

The above may not be relevant at all - in which case you will need to focus the pertinent issues for me?

If you think the above suggestions might help, try some experimentation. It's much better to try new approaches than just giving up. If you have a good friend who you trust to give you some honest feed-back, why not ask them what they think the problem is? However, if your friends are just too self-absorbed to listen, then maybe you need to find some new friends!

[Howard]

It also could be that maybe the people you're talking to,feel uncomfortable of what you're about to say.That could be the problem.Try using another approach.