Rich

[eightball61]

Hey Rich,

I just wanted to let you know its great to have someone like you around. I checked out your site and it looks great. Your advice is awsome and its great for people to have professional as well as off street advice. To me I think the mix is great because it give the poster all view sides.

Keep em' Coming :D

Jeff

[Rich]

Hey Jeff-

I just noticed this posting. Thanks for posting it. I normally don't scroll down this far and hence why I didn't see it or respond. :-)

Thanks again and I'll see you around the forum.

Rich

[eightball61]

Thats ok...I kinda figured that you didn't notice it and though eventually you would and now you did. :)

[JonHu33]

Yes, of course Rich, ive been here all of 5 days now, and already am grateful to have your advice and everyone elses. I checked out your site and since you already have a good sense of my problem, I was seriously like about to send you an email for an appointment lol

Your professional help has been great, you dont sugar coat anything, lay it down as you see it, a straight shooter, which is good so you can get through to knuckle heads like me =)

So, Inq., Rich, Eightball, all you who offered your advice and continual help, thanks a ton!

Jon

[eightball61]

Thats what we are here for and please fell free to contribute anytime. ;)

[Rich]

Thanks for the compliments.

It's my view that relationships are pretty easy. We just make them difficult by ignoring what exisits and sticking our heads in the sand.

I just try to call them as I see them and how I have seen them. I hope that my bluntness doesn't offend people.

I'm definately not a bullshit type person. lol There's a management term called the "velvet hammer". Hard on issues, soft on people. I'm still trying to gain my expertise in using that velvet hammer. :-)

And honestly, it's not my goal or desire to tell people what they should or need to do. My goal is to show people what a good relationship is, how theirs compares and then leave it to them to make whatever decision they feel is in their heart to make. At least when we're done, there's no excuse that they "didn't know" or that they had no "idea".

I'll be around.

Rich

[eightball61]

I know you don't want to tell people what do but no matter what all we can do is suggest while they make the last move on what they want to do. I understand where you are coming from and relationships are a beautiful thing but my question to you is if a relationship is really doomed then what would you suggest?

I am a normal guy off the streets as you see. I been a relationship board rat around the net for a few year now. I actually find this subect very interesting and I love sharing my view on thing. We are all different when opinions role in but thats because each individual person has a mind of thier own and a view on what they think is right. I will rarely argue anyones though unless it was totally off the wall. Outside opinion is not a bad thing though as I expressed.

This place is very unique compared to other boards I have been to and thats because of the mix we have here. A poster gets good information from a relationship counselor to people like me off the street that has been through some of that stuff before. Wouldn't you think so?

[Rich]

The only person to really know if a relationship is doomed, is the perosn in it.

Oh sure, on the outside looking in, we can pretty much guage what the outcome will be, but you never really know for sure. Maybe somebody really will change and then that's all it takes for the relationship to work. From the outside looking in, we truly don't know the parties.

All that we can do is to offer advice and hopefully have the person take their "love" blinders off and see things for what they are. My point in all of this is that we need to rely less on emotions and be more practical when it comes to relationships. To not let your emotions blind you to what actually exist.

As for offering advice on relationships, it's all gathered from experience. You can't get that from books. You can guage human behavior because we're all creatures of habit and most of us repeat the same mistakes that all other humans make. A good deal of that you can get from school or books, but most of it has come from being there and having done that.

Advice is advice and it offers many different views from which to see something. My goal is to get people to understand, more than it is to learn something and that's because of something my father once said to me when I was young.

I was in school at the time and he asked me why I was in school. I answered that I was in school to learn. He said that was wrong. He told me that a parrot can learn how to speak, but does it understand what it is saying? I said no, it doesn't. He said, EXACTLY. Understand what the hell you're doing, don't just learn it. :-)

That has always stayed with me.

I want people to understand what is going on and why certain things are. When you have a true understanding, you can then make more accurate decisions.

b00Bah is learning about Nat, but does he truly understand her?

Either way, everyday is an understanding experience. :D

Rich

[eightball61]

I love that phrased that your father gave you when you were in school. He sounds like a good man. So did you stay in school?

Experience in this field is something that one really needs to give good advice and really undertsand the situation. I am far from being an expert in all of this but reading post and start contributing to them took me a long way. A few years back I was clueless to what a relationship was nor the importance of trust, honesty, and communication.

I never believed in book and wasting money to read up on relationships. I thought about going more into that area but I sat back and learned through real life people and that was the best learning tool for me. Everyday I learn something new from people here. All the post though are based on opinions or experience but they do get a good wide of variety with this site here.

[Rich]

Yeah, pops is pretty smart.

Nope. Dropped out and joined the Air Force. I got bored in school. Needed a break. I did though complete my degree in the service.

My view is that everyone's goal in life should be to make themselves strong individuals. Two mentally and emotionally strong individuals have a better chance at succeeding in a relationship then do one weak / one strong or two weak people.

Just always strive to better yourself as a person mentally, emotionally and intellectually. That's what people should strive for.

Rich

[eightball61]

Just always strive to better yourself as a person mentally, emotionally and intellectually. That's what people should strive for.



Amen...Your a good man like your father :D