Still confused!

[jenrobsdad]

No one posted to my earlier message about my gf/fiance using a dating site. She finally admitted she was on line using a site, but for laughs. I told her I forgave her, but the trust is going to be an issue. Instead of trying to comfort me she turns it on me getting angry that I want that comfort and an apology. I feel that she only has me with her to help pay the 1/2 of $1500 rent because every time I act like I want to leave, it's not "I don't want you to go" rather "How will I survive and pay rent!" We have split up at least 20 times in the past two years. Twice I really thought it was over. I want her, but she doesn't seem to be into me anymore.

[Realer]

Im not very sure but it seems that the love level between you two is not equal. And when thats the case its always harder on the person that loves more. So now you need to sit and think if this is really the case and think about liking her like she likes you. Its not easy but you should give it a try. I happen to think its possible with much thinking.

[amanda2273]

hi i have the same problem i have caught my b/f on dating sites,phone chat you name it he is on them,i went off my brain at him,then i thought ah well,ill go on them and too bad if he finds my profile on their while he is looking to hook up,payback is a i say!

[smackie9]

You are caught in a vicious circle. The more she pushes you back the more you want her. You are still trying to win her love and in reality it ain't happening. She playing you like a fool. You are wasting your time waiting for her to change and become the loving, devoted gf you always wanted. You know in your head she is just using you, but you heart still desires her. Around and around you go. The only way for it to stop is to move on, before she does.

[Rich]

You answered your own question. She doesn't love you but only wants you because you pay half the rent.

Your relationship is crap and if you stay and continue to be used, then it's on you. You're with her because you want love, not just a room mate. If you leave her and she has to move out or find another roommate, OH WELL. Do not stay because of guilt that she has no where to go or can't pay the rent.

You can be a nice guy and say to her that this relationship isn't working out but that you won't screw her. Tell her that she has 3 months to move out or to find another room mate. That after 3 months, you're gone.

You don't have one of those truly great relationships that will last forever. It's time to move on.