What should I do? [Archive] - Relationship Forums

chjvc1026

01-28-2005, 11:21 PM

Well I really like this girl, we don't have a relationship right now, but I really want to work on it and get to know her more. When I hang out with her along, we are doing great, I make her laugh and smile alot. But I hung out with her and he friends couple times, and I've been really quite. She said she feel I made a tension that I am upset about her and give her friends that I am protecting her. And that put her in to situation to make everyone ease. I just feel that I don't have anything in common to say or talk to her friends. And plus she hangs out with a lot of guys, and many of them just want to take advantage on her. And that lead to my situation, I know those guys are not good people, and I just know it, I can't explain to her why. What should I do to keep up a good friendship with her and to know her more, and also let her know that I really like her and care about her? :(

eightball61

01-29-2005, 01:43 AM

You have all the makings of something good. You just need to be at more ease. Sure she has some guy friend you dont like and you are being protective of her but these are her friends. Its really not the right position to tell her at this stage what you think of them.

As I said though you need to be more at ease. Even though you feel you have nothing in common just try to get in thier convos. IF you all go out to the bar buy a round for everyone. Try to do something that will make you comfortable and they accept you into the group.

CalistaClap

01-31-2005, 12:53 PM

You really need to look at the situation before you try and get more involved.

She has guy friends who you don't trust. You may like her, but don't go into it thinking that you can get her to stop hanging around with them.

Don't go into it thinking that you can change anything about her. IF you try that, then it will lead to alot of tension and negative feelings.

If you are not comfortable with her how it is, including the guy friends, no matter who they are and what they're like, then I really don't see how you can be comfortable with it once you get emotionally attached.