MeOrYourMother
09-26-2006, 05:40 PM
Quick background:
-boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years.
-he lives with me and is extremely close to my parents and siblings
-we plan on getting married when he finishes his masters and we both have stable jobs
-his family lives 500 miles away and will soon move 2000 miles away
OK...so, the issue is: his mother and he got into an argument recently on the phone and she ended up telling him that she, and "everyone", hates me.
She called me a communist, arrogant, cold, superior, and many other mean and off the wall things.
She says that I have changed her son. She says we have totally different core values and she wants him to go back to the way he was before he met me.
I am blamed for everything about his life that they disagree with.
My boyfriend and I are so in love - we are perfect for one another. We are best friends. We have all the same morals and beliefs!!
She just can't stand letting her "baby" boy grow and mature, and want to stand on his own.
So...This has been very hard on him, and now we bicker about it. He wants me to have a good relationship with his family, and I believe that HIS relationship with his family is most important. I can't make them love me, but he HAS TO have a healthy relationship with them.
His mom is getting what she wants!!! After five years, she is making us fight over our relationship!!!
I love my boyfriend, but I'm feeling very nervous about joining that family!! How can this be balanced to have a healthy future?
I really do not like his parents, for many reasons, but I want our children and my husband to have a good relationship with them...
Any advice?:confused:
-boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years.
-he lives with me and is extremely close to my parents and siblings
-we plan on getting married when he finishes his masters and we both have stable jobs
-his family lives 500 miles away and will soon move 2000 miles away
OK...so, the issue is: his mother and he got into an argument recently on the phone and she ended up telling him that she, and "everyone", hates me.
She called me a communist, arrogant, cold, superior, and many other mean and off the wall things.
She says that I have changed her son. She says we have totally different core values and she wants him to go back to the way he was before he met me.
I am blamed for everything about his life that they disagree with.
My boyfriend and I are so in love - we are perfect for one another. We are best friends. We have all the same morals and beliefs!!
She just can't stand letting her "baby" boy grow and mature, and want to stand on his own.
So...This has been very hard on him, and now we bicker about it. He wants me to have a good relationship with his family, and I believe that HIS relationship with his family is most important. I can't make them love me, but he HAS TO have a healthy relationship with them.
His mom is getting what she wants!!! After five years, she is making us fight over our relationship!!!
I love my boyfriend, but I'm feeling very nervous about joining that family!! How can this be balanced to have a healthy future?
I really do not like his parents, for many reasons, but I want our children and my husband to have a good relationship with them...
Any advice?:confused: