Anyone Here plz help a guy out....

[CcpMotox]

Ok well idk how to do all this im not the kinda guy that usually post on fourms and what not i feel doing this but i care so much bout this girl i dont wanna lose her so im gonna do whatever it takes...

heres my prob...

all we really do is like small talk on the phone and she says how she wants to have like a real convo and we have had a few but idk what to do now... what are somethings that she'll wanna here or talk bout beside just how her days been or what not...idk if neone could help me out it would be great thx.... :o

[CalistaClap]

Maybe she should pick the deep conversation topic if she isn't happy with everyday talk.

When I talk on the phone it's usually about what has happened to me during the day, any funny stories i've heard, what my friends has been up to, etc. I'm thinking that's normal conversation, not small talk.

What is she into? Politics, enviromental issues, ??

Maybe I"m just n ot clear on what you mean.

[eightball61]

This may sound childish but work in all cases...You can play 21 questions. This could go on for hours. What you do is ask her a questions then she ask you. You use this method to get to know your partner.

[Rich]

If you're looking for a long term relationship, then the purpose of dating is to get to know people and see if they can be your long term match. How to go about this?

Obviously, since you say that all you have is small talk and that your GF is looking for real convo, it seems like you haven't clicked and that this relationship is sort of forced.

When two people "click", the conversation just flows naturally and it goes in any and every direction.

If you have a hard time speaking with members of the opposite , then I recommend getting a book. I saw a book in a bookstore once (perfect place, huh) that had nothing but questions. It was a book of questions that made you think. The answers to these questions reveal your philosophy on life and your thought process on things.

If you really want deep conversation and to REALLY get to know the person that you're dating, then get this book and ask each other those questions. It really is quite revealing and will show the true personality of the person that you're with.

Just talk, dude.

Rich

[wickedpixie]

if she wants a deep conversation, why isn't she starting one...

maybe you two just do not click...

[CcpMotox]

no weve clicked its liek somedays well talk till like 2 in the morning and then other days she seems like she doesnt wanna talk or something u know what i mean... im not sure tho...

[Rich]

I think you kinda lost us.

You mentioned in your first post that all you do is small talk and your gf said that she wants, like real convo.

So I'm confused. Are you staying up to 2 AM with real conversation or just small talk. Who knows, maybe your gf is just feeding you BS becasue she's looking for a way to break off with you. Maybe she doesn't feel the connection and is using that to set the stage to break it off.

Maybe if you could clarify more on your relationship and what stage that it's at. How long have you been dating? How old you both are? Have you been intimate yet? Stuff like that.

Rich

[William Scott]

I agree with eightball 61.

[CcpMotox]

well guys thanks for the help i just went after it and asked her how she felt bout it and we talked bout she really likes me and i really like her but were fine now so its all good

but neways guys thanks for ur help

[eightball61]

I am glad you both were able to see this through a big picture and I hope it continues on happiness.

[Rich]

Good luck and enjoy.

Love, respect, honesty and openness.