I can't take it anymore!!!!

[shorebird4387]

I have been seeing this girl from sometime, things were going great, or so I thought. Shes the only woman that I have ever told I loved, and I was her first. School, work, and my homelife is extremely stressful, and she tells me that even though she makes it worse sometimes. She expects so much from me and I can only give so much.
A little while ago i was really stressed out and told her i wasnt sure i loved her, and that i was really confused, of course i realized that was a mistake and went right over to make it up to her. After that i have devoted all the time i could give to her, I've brought her flowers, everything I could possibly do, I've done.
The problem is that everytime I'm with her, she seems to remind me of what I've done, everytime I'm with her, I've told her so many times that I was sorry, but she keeps reminding me how she can't trust me, or that I'm an asshole, or that all guys suck.
I know I've messed things up between us, and I really care about her, but I'm not sure that we could be happy anymore. When things seem to be getting better she says something like that and I feel like crap the rest of the night. She knows that, she also knows how sorry I am, how stressed out I was, and how I really didn't mean what I said.
I am not sure if I should continue on with this relationship, or end it. I can't take it anymore, I want to tell her that, but I'm afraid of hurting her again. I still tell her I love her, but it feels like its lost its meaning. If I was to end it what would be the best way to do it?

[nadenived]

Yeah man, you two definitely need to get this matter cleared up... This may end up improving things in your relationship, but you also need to understand that this could end your relationship, depending on how she responds.

You need to tell her how you feel about this relationship. You need to tell her that you have been doing everything to show her that you didn't mean what you said. Tell her that your mistake was in the past, and if she can't let it go by now or if she keeps rubbing it in your face then you don't know if things are going to work out between you two. Relationships involve mistakes, and if she really loves you then she should surely be able to forgive you. If she can't do that after all of the work you have put into maintaining this relationship, then she's not worth being with.

[Rich]

You’re a and it’s over. Goodbye.

Probably not the best way to end it, but it would sure feel good to say it though. Right?

True love encompasses forgiveness, which she doesn’t have for you. If you say that you’re sorry, mean it and she accepts your apology, then the issue is over and put to bed. Her keeping the issue alive is a way to control you and make you feel bad. When you feel bad, then it makes you want to be really, really good to her. She’s controlling you. True love doesn’t do that.

If life is stressful for you and this girl is adding to that, then end it. Get your life in order because your life is going to have to get you through this life. School, career and all of that stuff are the foundations to your life and they will be what supports you for the rest of your life. That takes precedence over any girl right now.

It sounds like she’s a needy, controlling . Time to flush her.