im new and blue :(

[romantic25]

hi i kinda thought someone could give me some advice..i have been with my bf for just over a year now and im madly in love with him.At the start he was so romantic and was basically obsessed which i certainly didnt mind at al.he constantly wanted to be with me 24/7 and i loved it.i had a very bad past and it took a lot for me to go out with this guy.actually for 2years i turned people down didnt want to know,didnt want to get involved with people that could hurt me,i couldnt trust anyone and still kinda dont.i figure if you trust someone it just gives them a chance to run riot with your feelings.anyway i gave in and went out with him,there was something about him that i couldnt put my finger on so i took the chance.i told him bout my past and he said he understood.but my jealousy just seemed to go out of control when i realised i was falling pretty bad for him.he stopped seeing his friends cos he knew that i would worry if he went out incase he met some1 else,he doesnt go out to the pub unless im with him but he said he cant do this anymore and he needs to go out with another guy to do guy stuff,have a pint etc. i have constantly questioned him bout what he does,where he's been,who's on the phone,although past few months i've kinda stopped that,im just so terrified that he will find some1 else r cheat on me,and just do stuff on me behind my back.now i have been really trying to stop this nonsense and he has told me i've been quite good lately but i've been arguing with him lately cos i want him to go back to the way he used to b with me,totally heed over heels for me.feel like he's starting to go off me.he says that he loves me more than anything but he doesnt show his feelings like i do and that i shouldnt try and change him.i need a lot of affection and im constantly showing him (he too used to b insecure but not anymore cos i show him how i feel),i get bit sad cos i dont get the same stuff back.
Can anybody help a nutcase like me??

[eightball61]

Jealousy is a hard thing and takes over your body and thoughts. I have jealousy and insecurity issues. It almost ruined my relationship with my GF but she was very understanding and worked with me.(we're on a break now) :(


Anyway, techniques I used was keeping a journal of thoughts. We also did a thing where I went to places with her and friends so I can get used of them. It did work some but I also came to the realization that if this doesn't stop then my relationship is gone. You need to find happy thoughts about him and the relationship and work with that.

[William Scott]

After almost a year and if he hasnt really giving you any reason not to trust him during his time away from you then you need to time for yourself from him. However, human beings are known to have a sixth sense and feel things arent right or normal. Go with your heart, because it knows how to protect you. In order for a relationship to last, you must have commucation, honesty and trust. Without all of these, you are setting up for a heart break. God bless and I hope the truth of you relationship comes together!