omg please help

[xenthusedx]

so, my boyfriend and i have been fighting a LOT lately. mostly over the same thing. he has a ton of girl friends (female friends) and i get mad because he doesnt tell me ahead of time when hes gonna hang out with them. one time he hung out with a girl he knew i was kinda uncomfortable with (he used to have a crush on her) and didnt plan on telling me. the only reason i found out was because i directly asked him. he didnt wanna tell me because id get mad. anyway, i think he should tell me ahead of time, you know, just give me the heads up. but he thinks that if we were in a healthy and mature relationship, he doesnt need to tell me ahead of time. only if i ask about his day would he tell me he hung out with a girl. am i being too overprotective and immature? or is he wrong in not wanting to tell me and let me know ahead of time? please help..we keep fighting and we're both stubborn and strongly believe we're both right..

[marisa616]

i hate to say it, but i think you are being way to overprotective. in making that statement, i'm assuming you don't live together. if you do live together, he should tell you he's going out and who with. if not, it doesn't really matter. i can understand being jealous of this girl and not liking the secrecy, but imagine if he was trying to monitor your every move and told you to stop seeing a guy friend because you used to like him. i bet you wouldn't like that. if you can trust him, then let it go. and tell him to stop keeping secrets because he thinks you'll get mad. my b/f does that and it drives me nuts. just make him aware that you'll get more mad if you find out he was lieing later.