paranoia?

[minnie]

what are the signs men are losing interest, without sounding paranoid. i feel i have every right to be!

is it normal for them to suddenly stop telling you where they are going after two years together? storing folders of adult content on their computer, not coming to bed till 3am??? we dont live together me and my partner, and already i worry what things would be like if we did. i love him so much and would like this to work. but he seems to like to make a fool of me in public. would anybody else stand for being shouted to go on a diet in the middle of kfc? this is in mind that i am 7 and a half stone and already under weight. i know it sounds like emotional abbuse but people keep telling me how great we are together in public. the whole 'little lost boy' look seems to have an effect on everyone and i seem to be the only one who knows what hes like. im sick of being called names by him but do all men do that or am i being paranoid? hes never hit me, but i occasional get scared as he will phump something in my direction or hold his fist to my face and say 'i could you know' 10 minutes later he makes me feel a fool in saying he seriously was joking. is this enough to end it or is it worth another try?

[inquisitive]

My opinion says end it, or at least have him seek counselling. Yelling at you in public and telling you to go on a diet is emotional abuse. Even if you needed to go on a diet there is no way you deserve to be treated like that! If he's making you feel threatened/scared when he is holding his hand to your face, or throwing things in your direction, then it is not a joke. It's not funny and he should stop. Have you told him that it scares you? If yes and he continues thats a problem!

[Rich]

I think in your heart you already know the answer. You don't need to look for outside validation of what you already know to be.

You are not in a good relationship. He doesn't view you as an equal, has no respect for you, is trying to control you through verbal abuse and insults, doesn't care about your feelings, is immature, has emotional issues, lacks proper communication skills, doesn't appreciate you for you, is not nice to you, acts violently towards you, isn't thoughtful and is not making your happiness his first priority.

Is this worth saving? Can you save it? Do you want to try? Can he change?

Go within and ask yourself those questions. Listen to what your heart and sould tells you. Have the confidence in yourself to do what you need to do.

What I do know is that an awesome relationship isn't one like the one that you're describing about yours.

Good luck

Rich
www.awesomerelationships.com

[eightball61]

Others have said it so I will save from another like posting but you know what we are all going to tell you. If you still want to keep this a float then you need to split away and give him time to think whats more important to him but he needs to be left alone and have a wake up call.