Getting over her past

[falloutboy]

This topic has already been discussed, but I feel that my situation is slightly different and I need some advice. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 6 months now, and everything is going good. The only problem is that she has a pretty wild past and has been with quite a few men (she won't tell me how many), and has even had an abortion. I've known about these things for quite sometime now, and I thought that I could get over them, but it's so hard! I personally have only had 3 girlfriends before her, and have only been somewhat intimate with one (we kinda had once, my first time). So pretty much this girl is my first for everything. I try so hard to not think about her past, but it still pops into my head and drives me crazy to think about her with another man and the things she has done with them. How can I just get over it and love her for who she is now? If I can't get these thoughts out of my head, I don't know if I can live with it the rest of my life. Any opinions or suggestions would help a ton. Thanks.

[CalistaClap]

Do you trust that she is ready to settle down and be with one person? If you do, then her past shouldn't affect your relationship. If you don't, then it will.

Has she ever given you a reason to think otherwise?

What she did in her past really shouldn't involve you. These things happened before the two of you got romantically involved. Although she may not have made the right choiced for her self then, it shouldn't effect how her future relationships worked out.

To me it would be more of worrying if she will do it in the future, rather than accepting her past. If you feel that you can trust her, then don't hold her past against her.

[eightball61]

A major thing why you may be bothered about her past is because she is your first everything and she done more than you. You have to realize that we all have past in our lives and there may things that could bother he is she new. You have to except your new partner for what they are now and build to that. If you can accept that then move on but you will have to be accepted to someones past if you want a future partner.

[Rich]

You need to not be so judgemental. For some reason you feel that her past is a bad thing. Why? Why are you judging her or feel that you have the right to and then look down upon it?

Everyone has a life that they lead. Acceptance of people and how they are is what makes a relationship. Until you've walked a mile in someones shoes, don't judge thier life.

Evaluate this woman on how she is with you and how she acts with you, THAT's IT! Nothing else matters.

If you can't, as person, be non-judgemental, then you need to leave her and go find a virgin or someone that you deem more acceptable to be with.

Don't let your lack of confidence in your life and your ual ability cloud your thinking. Does this girl make you feel bad for being less experienced? If not, then why think of her in a bad way. In actuality you should be thankful that she's experienced. Believe it or not, she can teach you things and give you the confidence that you're lacking.

Enjoy her and being with her for who she is with you.

Rich